[Neurons] 2019 Neurons #54 COMMUNICATING PROFESSIONALLY

[Michael Hall]

From: L. Michael Hall

2019 Neurons #54

December 10, 2019

How to be a 

Professional Communicator #9

 

COMMUNICATING PROFESSIONALLY

 

 

Most people are not able to communicate professionally and do not
communicate professionally.  First of all they do not know how to do such,
how to make the distinctions described in the first eight articles of this
series.  Knowing alone, however, is not sufficient, a person must be able to
execute the qualities of high level professional communication.  The most
difficult part comes when you and I attempt to communicate and to use the
distinctions that we know.  Of course, that's where training comes in.

 

What does unprofessional communication look or sound like?  It can take many
different forms.  Mostly it is communication that is sloppy, vague, and
imprecise.  Or it could be highly biased, prejudiced, and full of
unsubstantiated assumptions.  Another aspect of unprofessional communication
involves the cognitive distortions that's characteristics of childish
thinking- over-generalizing, all-or-nothing thinking, exaggerating,
personalizing, awfulizing, etc.

 

What NLP did in creating its Communication Model was integrate multiple
sources of insights about communication (Korzybski, Miller, Chomsky), skills
demonstrated by expert communicators (Perls, Satir, and Erickson),
structural formats from linguistics (Transformational Grammar) as well as
from systems and anthropology (Bateson).  The result was the NLP
Communication Model which focuses on both verbal and non-verbal
communication.

 

As a result, with the Meta-Model of Language, you have a set of distinctions
and questions for flushing out communication that is sloppy, vague, and
imprecise.  With the Meta-Programs Model and the Meta-State Model, you can
flush out communications which are highly biased, prejudiced, and full of
unsubstantiated assumptions.  These models also enable us to update the
childish thinking (characterized by the Cognitive Distortions).

 

All of that is very useful in cleaning up language and communication making
it more precise.  And yet, even that is not enough.  We have to do more to
truly communicate professionally.  What we need to be able to do is to
communicate our truths from a place of authenticity.  For that we have to
move beyond the NLP Communication Model.  We have to move beyond merely what
we say to what we are as we communicate.  We have to move to more than our
state- we have to move to our character. 

 

To achieve that, what we have done in Neuro-Semantics with the Meta-States
Model is to access our highest value and Being states so that we operate
from a commitment to truth and honesty.  We source this from Maslow's work
about Being psychology that involves moving into the being values.  These
are the values that make us authentically human and compassionate.  Maslow
wrote about this in Toward a Psychology of Being (1965) and described it as
"self-actualization."  In other words, to communicate at the highest and
most professional level requires moving to the Being values and developing
the kind of character who can and does communicate authentically.

 

For that we use many of the models which came out of modeling the
self-actualization research of Abraham Maslow- the Unleashing Model, the
Crucible Model, the Self-Actualization Quadrants Model, the Inside-Out
Persuasion Model, and the "Getting Real" Model.  Real communication is more,
much more, than just words and non-verbal expressions- it is an expression
of a person's character, heart, and spirit.  Now you know why we have
developed the Self-Actualization Psychology Diploma and eight training
workshops on self-actualization.  

 

 

 

Post Script

NLP Trainer Dianne Lowther has sent out the following notice about an
article that presented the NLP Communication Model in a positive way.  Check
it out:

 

 
<https://www.finextra.com/blogposting/18203/nlp-and-sales--part-1--communica
tion---an-interesting-paradox>
https://www.finextra.com/blogposting/18203/nlp-and-sales--part-1--communicat
ion---an-interesting-paradox 

 



 

                                          

 

L. Michael Hall, Ph.D.

Executive Director, Neuro-Semantics

P.O. Box 8

Clifton CO. 81520 USA

www.neurosemantics.com   look for the special offer

 

Author of the stunning new history of NLP--- NLP Secrets.  

Investigative Journalism which has exposed what has been kept secrets for
decades. 

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