[Neurons] 2009 Meta Reflections #55

[L. Michael Hall]

From: L. Michael Hall, Ph.D.

Meta Reflections #55

Dec. 21, 2009

 

 

ADVERSITY UNIVERSITY

 

 

2009 has been a year of challenge, trial, and adversity for a lot of people.
All around the world, the banking crisis of late 2008 and the recession that
followed in 2009 has been a challenge to some, a set-back to others, and the
failure of dreams for many others.  How much challenge has the world-wide
recession been to you and how have you handled it?  How much resilience have
you had to developed or wish you had before it all began?

 

Adversity in whatever form it takes can either make or break you.  Mistakes,
failures, rejections, financial collapses, bankruptcies, demotions,
redundancies, business failures, income losses, relationship breakups, these
and many other forms of adversity can knock you down and defeat you or knock
new sense and wisdom into you.  Which does it do for you?  It all depends on
your interpretative style and your ability to learn and develop new coping
skills.

 

So, what courses have you graduated from at Adversity University?  What
degrees have you obtained?  The problem with life isn't that we have
problems- that's inevitable.  As long as we are fallible and mortal human
beings- we are going to have problems.  In fact, problems can just as well
bring out your best as your worse.

 

Actually, we need problems.  We human beings are a class of life who thrive
on problems.  There's nothing more boring than a movie where everything is
rosy, going as expected, and everybody's perfectly happy.  We need drama.
We need a challenge to conquer.  Give a human being too perfect of a life,
and they invent problems.  For fun, they do cross-word puzzles, math
problems, riddles, computer game problems, or read fictional stories about
the end of the world or some severe challenge.

 

And why?  Because we're sadistic?  Because we have sold out to the dark
side?  Because we have a pathology within for the negative?  No!  It's
because we are by nature problem-solvers.  Problems bring out our best
because they give us contexts for applying our creative minds.  Problems
require that you think hard, that you think laterally, that you think in
wild and crazy ways to come up with solutions.

 

It's not the problem per se that turns us on, that brings us to life, that
wakes us up- it is that we now have a context that needs us!  That's why
there's nothing like a crisis for coming to terms with the essence of life-
What are we about?  Why are we here?  What are we doing to do?  What can we
contribute?  How can we solve this or that difficulty?

 

And that's why the most creative, the most effective, those who step up into
leadership, the entrepreneurs of tomorrow's businesses are those who love
problems, who are turned-on by difficulties, and who have an attitude of
"bring it on!"  They also have something else.  They are experimenters.
They try one thing and then another.  Not knowing the solution is a good bit
of the fun because that makes the problem-solving an adventure, a discovery.
So they take risks trying this, and then trying that, and all along making
mistakes.  But the mistakes are nothing but learning-solutions along the way
to the final solution.

 

In building up a dynamic and joyful problem-solving mental attitude, make
sure that you frame mistakes as just playing around with possible solutions.
Don't demonize them.  They are part and parcel of creativity.  And if you
use them to learn from, they are not bad at all, but a nugget that can be
learned from.

 

The solution focus mind-set of a leader, entrepreneur, creator, or innovator
is the driving force that causes them to not only endure "problems," but
search for them.  "Problems are great!" they think and say.  Inside of
problems they find solutions.  Inside of problems is wealth.  "The bigger
the problem I can solve, the more value I add, the more the solution is
worth."  Problems are wonderful because they are tokens of the future.  The
solutions that we invent today for the problems people bring to us, that we
encounter, that society struggles with paves the road to the better future
that we are now creating.

 

Did you receive any invitations to Adversity U. this year?  Did you go or
have you been avoiding it like the plague?  Do you first need some robust
frames of mind to build up a more beefed-up attitude and a stronger sense of
inner resilience?  Are you ready to win your own inner game of frames about
adversity or mistakes or disappointments or set-backs?  Then seek out a
Neuro-Semantic Trainer or a Meta-Coach.  We specialize in the creative
attitude that best characterizes self-actualizing people- the solution
focused attitude of using problems to create value.

 

 

 

 

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L.  Michael Hall, Ph.D.

(ISNS) International Society of Neuro-Semantics

The International Meta-Coach System

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