[Neurons] 2022 Neurons #33 GETTING AN UNLEASHING-POTENTIALS ATTITUDE

Sun Aug 14 23:15:39 EDT 2022

From: L. Michael Hall

2022 Neurons #33

August 15, 2022

Super-charging Your Attitude #9

GETTING AN UNLEASHING POTENTIALS

ATTITUDE

As I get ready to do the Self-Actualization Psychology trainings for the
diploma, I have been reviewing Maslow's works and some of what I've written.
In look at the chapter titles in Unleashed! (2007) I noticed that the third
chapter is titled, The Attitude.  The following is what is in the book, a
story about an attitude.

"Several years ago I wrote a book to apply the framing process to eating and
exercising.  Games Fit and Slim People Play (2001) was designed to look at
what we think and do with food and exercise in terms of a "game."  If how I
eat and relate to food is a game, what are the rules?  What is the name of
the game?  When do I play it?  Who do I play it with?  What do I win if I
win the game?

After I wrote the basic manuscript, I decided to test it.  So I wrote to our
primary Neuro-Semantic egroup and asked for five volunteers.  I wanted five
people who were obese, who really wanted to lose weight and get to a healthy
body weight and fitness, and who had tried everything without success.  I
proposed to provide the manuscript if those who volunteered agreed to read
and apply the process.  They were also to take before and after pictures of
themselves and let me know how the process worked for them after three
months.

What I didn't expect was the immediate response to that post on that group.
The response was overwhelming.   Within one day I had forty lengthy emails
(each one three to ten pages) from people explaining why I should consider
them.  And it didn't end there, more poured in throughout the following
week.

So instead of five, I chose fifteen people from ten different countries and
sent out the manuscripts.  I read the letters to identify people who really
needed it and who seemed to have all the motivation to follow-through.  I
looked for people who were proactive in trying to take action to manage
their weight.

But then I got a surprise.  Out of the 15 who had begged me to be a part of
the experiment and who really, really, really wanted to be included, only
eight of them read the manuscript and began using the process.  Of them,
they all lost weight and gained more fitness and six of them maintained it
after three years.  But seven of them, seven of them did not read past the
first chapter!

I was shocked.  I thought I had picked well.  I thought I had offered enough
motivation and given enough personal attention, and yet almost half could
not get themselves to even read the materials.  And three of them sent me
critiques of the writing of that first chapter- typos and ungrammatical
structures, which didn't have a thing to do with weight management.

"What frame of mind were they in when they were reading?"  It certainly
wasn't a commitment to their own success in managing their weight or
becoming fit!  Their task had nothing to do with examining the writing, it
had to do with taking and using an approach that could help them unleash the
health and fitness that they said they wanted.   But they didn't.

So what went wrong?  What had I not anticipated in the group?  What
prevented half of them from getting the results they wanted and experiencing
the health and fitness that would make life so much better for them?

In a word, attitude.  They didn't have a robust enough attitude or the right
attitude to unleash their potentials.  Attitude always plays a critical role
difference between success and failure; between achieving our highest dreams
or selling them short.  So with that in mind, what attitude or frame of mind
is necessary to become a self-actualizer and unleash your potentials?"

At that point I inquired, "What is the attitude for someone who wants to
actualize his or her potentials?"  Then from the studies and modeling, I
identified and described 16 attitudes that are highly correlated to the
self-actualizing process.  I have not mentioned some of these in this series
on attitudes-another indicator that there are so many attitudes and you are
completely free to select and build them into your way of thinking and
perceiving.

              ___ Openness to experience

              ___ Willingness to Become

              ___ Self-Authorization / Self-Responsibility 

              ___ Transcending Passion

              ___ Playful Curiosity

              ___ Restlessness

              ___ A Beginner's Mind

              ___ Self-Challenging

              ___ Mental Agility

              ___ Embracing Change

              ___ Resilience

              ___ Follow-Through Discipline

              ___ Decision

              ___ Audacious Dreaming

              ___ Willingness to Become Completely Engaged

              ___ Willingness to Risk    

Isn't it amazing?  Attitudes are free for the taking, or should I say, free
for the developing.  And when you develop an especially powerful one, that
attitude can wonderfully transform your life and relationships.  It is a
psychic gift ... yours for the developing.  Here's to choosing some great
ones for you.

L. Michael Hall, Ph.D.

ISNS Executive Director

P.O. Box 8

Clifton Colorado 81520 USA

(970) 523-7877

drhall at acsol.net  

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