[Neurons] 2020 Neruons #8 COMPLETING WHAT YOU START

[Michael Hall]

From: L. Michael Hall 

2020 Neurons #8

February 24, 2020

2020 Vision series #8

 

 

COMPLETING WHAT YOU START

 

Setting goals is one thing, completing them is another.  Success often
depends more upon persistently staying with a goal than starting.  In that
way, when things get tough, you persevere and complete what you started.
That's not easy, yet it is more often than not, the key.  How many times do
you quit because it's taking longer than you thought?  It's harder than you
thought?  It is requiring more time, energy, effort, money, etc. than you
thought?  It is creating unintended consequences that you didn't expect?
This speaks about planning- being able to forecast by thinking things
through and anticipating what may be difficult to anticipate (#3 and #4 in
this series).

 

Obvious when you start, you want to complete what you started.  If you have
set some visionary 2020 goals, they reflect your highest values, especially
your being values, then-of course, you want to see them through.  You want
to complete them and reach your objective.  Why start something if you don't
plan  to complete it?  What would be the value of starting something which
you later give up on and not complete it?  If it comes to naught, if it dies
out due to lack of resources, if it peters out due to factors that you did
not plan for- how much time and energy and effort, etc. did you waste?
Let's now assume you have done an excellent job in setting the goal, you
have made sure it fits your values, and that it's ecological.  It deserves
to be completed.

 

The challenge with completing what you start is that there are so many
factors that can interrupt, slow down, and disrupt the goals that you set.
And further, you cannot even anticipate all of them.  Those that you can
anticipate, you can build Plan B and Plan C into your plan.  That's part of
risk management.  This is the famous Question #14 in the WFO questions,
"What could stop you?"  Here you consider the many possible things that
could go wrong and the problems that could arise.  Here you identify what
would happen under those conditions.  In that way, you put at risk what is
reasonable and appropriate and no more.  In that way, you protect yourself
at risking what's crucial. 

 

What you cannot anticipate, those Black Swam events that can arise which no
one considered even possible.  911 was such an event.  Until then,
terrorists had always hyjacked planes and used them to negotiate for
whatever they wanted.  Who would have thought using the plane itself as a
bomb?  Obviously, we cannot humanly anticipate everything.

 

Accepting that, what then?  What resources will you need to complete what
you have started?  Resources -keep your intentionality strong and fresh by
renewing your biggest reason why.  Then develop an overall flexibility and
build an inner sense of "bounce" within you so that whatever happens, you
have the inner capability of resilience.  Resilience is the practical
expression of being flexible and adaptable, able to keep thinking, learning,
and adjusting in the moment.

 

Resilience means that when you are knocked down or when you suffer a
set-back- you land on your feet.  What this implies is something truly
powerful.  It implies that you do not let a trauma traumatize you.  Now, is
that possible?  Is that just for the super-human or can any man or woman
learn that? 

 

What makes that possible for anyone, for you and for me, is that whatever
event occurs, it is just that-an event.  What you do with that event in your
mind and emotions is an entirely different thing.  Here you have choice.
And the choice goes to your thinking.  What kind of thinking are you doing
about the event?  If you use the thinking patterns of childhood, what is
called the Cognitive Distortions, you will make yourself miserable.  That's
because by those thinking patterns you will make yourself a victim of the
event.  You will over-generalize it, jump to conclusions, put it in an
either-or framework, personalize it, awfulize it, emotionalize it, etc.  No
wonder you will come out the other end feeling like a victim. 

 

Because the choice always goes to your thinking- when you engage the highest
levels of your brain functioning, your executive pre-frontal cortex, and
engage in executive thinking, you can refuse to turn the event into a
trauma.  Ultimately, your experience, your resilience, your ability to stay
flexible is a function of the meanings that you give to the event.  Oprah
did that when she was raped as a child.  Frankl did that when he was forced
into a Nazi concentration camp.  The meanings you give determine the life
you live.  The meanings you give and the thinking that you engage in
determines how you can complete what you start.

                                                                      

              For more, see Executive Thinking (2018).

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

L. Michael Hall, Ph.D.

Executive Director, Neuro-Semantics

P.O. Box 8

Clifton CO. 81520 USA

www.neurosemantics.com   

 

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