[Neurons] 2014 "Neurons" Meta Reflections #15

[L. Michael Hall]

From: L. Michael Hall

Meta Reflections 2014 #15

April 14, 2014

 

 

META-COACHING

A Transformative Gift That Keeps Giving

 

 

If there’s any consistent testimony during the past few years that I hear almost from every single person who graduates from the Coaching Boot Camp of Coaching Mastery it is this: The Meta-Coaching System is an incredibly transformative experience.  While I have always known that, I have been discovering that it is transformative in so many ways and dimensions of life than I ever expected.  It is also transformative to a degree that I’ve been discovering as most surprising.

 

In my own experiences last year and this year in a wide range of places, from Brazil to China, from Kenya to Egypt, from Colorado to Brussels, the common theme is that the transformations are accumulative.  Sure there were many Aha! moments, but mostly the transformation snuck up on them.  It wasn’t until afterwards, sometimes weeks, even months, that most began to realize the extent and degree of the changes that they and experienced.

∙           What explains this?

∙           How does the changes in thinking, feeling, languaging, acting, and relating operate and how does it build up in an accumulative way? 

 

New Insightful Ideas

There’s obviously lots of new information that creates change.  We promise people from day one to do an information overload as we introduce lots of new models and patterns.  And because “mastery is in the details” it is often the case that one or more particular distinction will strike a person in a particular way and he or she will experience it as completely life changing.

 

Coaching and Being Coached

However, even more central than that is the socio-emotional experience of coaching and being coached.  We do this every day, and usually several times every day, often coaching through a patterned process for a particular objective as well as the “coaching sessions” that are supervised and benchmarked.  There’s something about actually practicing “the conversation like none other” (the coaching conversation) in a context of challenge in which you never know when a single conversation might be the conversation in which you discover a critical distinction that becomes a life-changing experience.

 

The Joy of Authenticity

Many have told me at the graduation or weeks or even months later that it was the coaching experiences in Coaching Mastery that was so real, so authentic, and so personal that made the transformational difference.  Almost all start off saying that they thought the sessions would be more like role playing.  Then they discovered that even when they were being coached by someone new to it all and inexperienced, still the power of the listening, supporting, questioning, and feedback was incredibly more profound than they ever thought possible.

“I really don’t think that I have ever been listened to so actively and deeply and caringly.”

“The listening was seductive, I found myself talking about things I had never said aloud before.  And in speaking aloud, it was like it freed me.  I can’t explain it.”

 

The factor of Challenge

We have designed the Coaching Mastery boot camp to be intense and challenging.  We have built into it lots of difference things that challenge and stretch a person.  Why?  Primarily in order that participants can test their resources to see what they can and cannot handle and then learn to access and develop a set of new resources for keeping presence of mind under pressure and handling stress in a much more resourceful way.  The intensity has to do with the time pressures, the demandingness of acting on and practicing new understandings immediately, of working with others in a context of supervision which entails performing when still in the consciously incompetence stage and while being benchmarked!

 

The Joy of Challenge

At first, many really hate and resist the experience.  Yet by the end of the course, just as many are bewailing that it will end!  They are really missing the challenge.  What began as a context of performance anxiety became transformed into an experience of loving how challenge calls forth the best and how stepping up to the unknown or the ambiguous has become a real turn on.  Of course, that’s why we have set up MCF chapters everywhere— so that Coaches can continue the experience.  This is accelerated adult learning and many report that, for the first time in their lives, they have rediscovered the absolute joy of learning.  They leave the boot camp with an intense childlike wonder and curiosity.

 

The Joy of Learning and Experimentation

Getting over the performance anxiety also involves getting over the perfectionistic frame of having to do something “right the first time.”  They experience learning as a way of experimenting, playing around with possibilities, and taking informed risks as a way of life.  I am constantly hearing people talk about this as the birth of a true spirit of entrepreneurship.

“I used to be so afraid of failure, of rejection, of making mistakes.  I can’t believe that I used to feel that way.  Now it just seems so natural, I feel like a scientist experimenting the laboratory of life!”

“What was I thinking?  I had to be perfect?  It seems so silly now.  Now whatever I do, I know that whatever response I get, it is just that, a response ... and one that I can learn from.  This changes everything.”

 

The Joy of Being a Team Player

In Coaching Mastery we create and use groups (usually 6 in a group) to first be a supportive learning team and then to be a high performance team.  This is required because of the group projects we give them.  They learn “group and team coaching” from inside the experience.  And that’s where the Team Leaders on the Assist team come in.  Here people begin to learn the skills for being good team members and how to be inter-dependent in a healthy way.  We also try our best to get the teams to “storm”(!) so that they also learn conflict resolution skills— how to respectfully, caringly, and assertively work through the differences of opinion and experience themselves as a high performance team. 

 

For many this is incredibly transformative.  Those who come in and are highly individualistic, and prefer to do things alone, discover how they put people off and prevent true collaboration. Others come in with exaggerated needs for peace and harmony that “conflict” seems to be an inhuman thing to them.

“The change that I’m taking away from Meta-Coaching is that I am not so ‘sensitive’ to differences or conflict and I now know that I can handle conflict in an entirely new way.”

“I thought I was a great leader and then discovered that I could only lead to being in charge and controlling.  What’s been transformative is that I now know I can lead from the back as well as the front and I can do so by being a great team player.  My wife is going to be so surprised!”

 

Are you ready for a life-changing transformation this year?  If so, plan to join us for the Coaching Boot Camp on Independence Day (July 4) in Colorado:

            Module II: July 1-3

            Module III: July 4-11

                        At the Countries Inns of America Hotel and Conference Center

                        Grand Junction Colorado 

                        Sponsored by Neuro-Semantics Ltd. Colorado

                                    (970) 523-7877 —  <mailto:meta at acsol.net> meta at acsol.net 

                        

 

And there are More!

If that doesn’t work, then here are lots of other places around the world where you can attend Coaching Mastery boot camp:

            June 5-8: Mexico City — Coaching Mastery, Part I

Ivan Robbles, David Murphy, and Emilia Bleck

               June 3-4: Team leaders

                June 5-8: Part I of ACMC the Coaching Bootcamp

 <mailto:ivan at coachingontologico.com> Iván Robles: irobles at cglobalmexico.com                   <mailto:ivan at coachingontologico.com> ivan at coachingontologico.com 

 <mailto:david at neurosemantica-latam.com>  david at neurosemantica-latam.com              ;  <mailto:mecbleck at hotmail.com> mecbleck at hotmail.com 

 

            June 15-22: Hong Kong — ACMC Coaching Mastery

                 June 13-14: Team leaders

                 June 15-22: Coaching Mastery – Coaching Boot Camp

                        Mandy Chai    <mailto:mandy at apti.com.hk> mandy at apti.com.hk  

 

            September 13-20: Shanghai China — Coaching Mastery

Team Leaders: Sept. 11-12

                        Coaching Boot Camp: Sept. 13-20

                        Mandy Chai    <mailto:mandy at apti.com.hk> mandy at apti.com.hk 

 

            Sept. 29– Oct. 7: Coaching Mastery (AMCM) Brussels Belgium

                        Sept. 27-28: Team Leaders

                        Sept. 28 – Oct. 7 Module III Coaching Mastery— The Coaching Boot Camp

                        Germaine Rediger —  <mailto:germaine at indialogue.eu> germaine at indialogue.eu 

                        Oct. 5: Modeling an Expert Coach: Graham Richardson

                                    Open to everyone 

 

            Sydney Australia – Coaching Room

    Oct. 22-23: Team Leaders 

                Oct. 24-31: Coaching Mastery – Module III, Coaching Boot Camp

Jay Hedley and Joseph Scott 

 <mailto:Jay at thecoachingroom.com.au> Jay at thecoachingroom.com.au                            <mailto:Joseph at thecoachingroom.com.au> Joseph at thecoachingroom.com.au 

 

            Nov. 21– Nov. 28 – Rio de Janeiro — Coaching Mastery

                        Team leaders: Nov. 19-20

                        Contact info:  Jairo Mancilha —  <mailto:jairo at pnl.med.br> jairo at pnl.med.br

                        Maira–  <mailto:maira at pnl.med.br> maira at pnl.med.br 

                        

            

There will also be Coaching Msatery in:

            Auckland New Zealand

            Manila Philippines, Jan. 2015

            Cairo, Egypt, Feb. 2015

            Bali, Indonesia, March, 2015

            and so on

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

L. Michael Hall, Ph.D.

                Neuro-Semantics Executive Director 

                Neuro-Semantics International

P.O. Box 8

Clifton, CO. 81520 USA                             

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