[Neurons] 2010 Meta Reflections #61

[L. Michael Hall]

From: L. Michael Hall

Meta Reflections 2010 - #61

Dec. 13,  2010

 

 

INSIDE-OUT-NESS

 


>From a NLP and a Neuro-Semantic perspective, it is always and only

inside-out.  And what is?  Everything-anything and everything important in
human experience is an inside-out phenomenon.

 

Wealth is inside-out.  I discovered that in the modeling project that I did
back in the mid-1990s, and why I gave it the title, Inside-Out Wealth.
Success is inside-out.  That's why I wrote Winning the Inner Game.  Values
is inside-out, so is identity, esteem, creativity, health, leadership, and
so on.

 

And why?  It is all inside-out because meaning is an inside-out process.
"Meaning" doesn't exist on the outside, it is an inside-out process.  You
have to go in if you want to create meaning and after you go inside, then
you have to actualize it on the outside.  It is what you do on the inside
that determines your success, effectiveness, and results on the outside.
Further, it is the quality of what you do on the inside that determines the
quality of your experiences on the outside.

 

I knew this before I found NLP, but I really didn't know how to capitalize
on the advantages of this.  It was with the detailing of the map / territory
difference that NLP offered that really enabled me to understand and
translate a richer inside-world to the outside.  With the discovery of the
Meta-States Model, new tools emerged for this.  One set of tools was frame
detection, frame changing, frame analysis.  In 1998 this became the frame
games approach.  And that led to a series of books, Games Fit and Slim
People Play, Games for Mastering Fear, Games Business Experts Play, and
Games Great Lovers Play.  That also led to a wide series of trainings and
training manuals- Inner Games for writing, learning, selling, etc.

 

The inside-out principle also gives us a guiding principle in
Neuro-Semantics.  I think of it as the secret for being a professional
community.  This first of all means that professionalism is an inside-out
process.  First you have to develop an inner competency, inner knowledge,
inner authenticity, integrity, and passion.  First comes the inner
empowerment and then comes the outer unleashing and actualization.  To turn
this around, to try to first have the outer recognition, reputation, and
success invites a person to emphasize external signs over internal reality.
It encourages external PR (public relations) and image over internal
authenticity.

 

The inside-out principle speaks to the subject of branding.  The best
branding is also inside-out.  And how does that work?  First you develop the
inner reality of knowing your stuff and the inner skill of being able to
deliver what you offer.  Once you can do that, then you are ready to let the
outside world know.  Then comes your external communication of what you have
created and are able to innovate.  So you market and publicize to thereby
create your reputation in the minds of people.  That's your brand.

 

The inside-out principle says that everything is created twice- first inside
in your mind, imagination, hopes and dreams and then outside as you innovate
in the world.  It is the same process that governs creativity and innovation
within any industry or business.  As such, it is the most natural sequence
of how new things are generated.  Yet in spite of this, so many people
(perhaps most people) try to do it backwards.

 

First they want health, energy, vitality, a gorgeously fit body and then
they will be able to choose the exercise of their choice and fully enjoy it.
Backwards!  First they want fame and fortune and great position and then
they will develop the required knowledge and skills.  Backwards!  They first
want to get rich and then decide what they really want to spend their lives
doing.  Backwards!  Lottery winners have repeatedly proven that this is
backwards and ineffective.

 

To put your highly desired outcome first and then you do the work of getting
there is not only backward, but ignorant, stupid, and impossible.  Life just
doesn't work that way.  And that's why persistence, patience, resilience,
commitment, ongoing learning, continuous adjustments, and generative change
are always listed as essential keys to success.  If that sounds old fashion,
then reframe it as being well-documented and credible evidence of these
critical success factors.

 

And if it sounds like a lot of work, that means that you have not yet
created the inside understanding, know-how, and passion for the outside
stuff.  How can I say that?  Because once you win the inner game and succeed
with this inside stuff, then it is no longer "work."  The effort transforms
into fun, excitement, and play.  It is the effortfulness of a child at play
... lots of effort, lots of movement, expenditure of energy and yet for the
child, it is not "work."  It is play.  It is fun.  So with every application
of the inside-out principle.

 

When someone notices me reading, scribbling notes, typing away at my lap-top
and says, "Wow!  A lot of work; you work so hard."  I hardly know how to
respond.  It completely jars with my inner experience:

"'Work?'  Are you kidding, this is fun!  I'd pay to do this!  You can't keep
me from this.  I'm delighted, thrilled, passionate about doing this stuff.
I'm exploring and discovering; it's like a treasure hunt."

 

This is the power of finding a self-actualizing passion.  The day you find
it is the day you Quit Work!  That day becomes the end of doing things based
on external motivation!  And that day may be the day that you put forth much
more effort and energy in what you are doing- but of course, on the inside,
you are at play, having fun, and delighting yourself in something that calls
to you from within!

May you find your self-actualizing meta-need and post your address in
Meta-Land as your live your Meta-Life with all of the Meta-Vitality that
fulfills your highest and best Meta-Identity!

 

 

 

 

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video .

 

 

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L.  Michael Hall, Ph.D.

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