[Neurons] 2010 Meta Reflections #56

[L. Michael Hall]

From: L. Michael Hall

Meta Reflections 2010 - #56

November 22, 2010

 

 

 

META-STATING AND EMOTIONS

Part II

 

 

What is the best way to get along with emotions that trouble you?  With
those annoying "negative emotions?"  The best thing is to accept them!

 

I ended Part I with a statement about meta-stating your troubling emotions
with acceptance and a promise to continue that thought.  So here goes.
Given that emotions are motions within our mind-body system giving us
signals and messages about the difference between our mappings about the
world and our experiences in the territory of the world (Meta Reflection
#55), then here are some facts about emotions that you can set as frames
(meta-state levels of meaning) which will give you some real mastery and
management of your emotions:

 

1) Emotions measure the map/territory difference. 

Neuro-Semantically, an emotion is the difference between our mental maps of
the world (map) and our experiences of the world (territory).  What you and
I experience as "positive" and "negative" emotions are just the somatic
energy in our body and neurology that excites (positive) and inhibits
(negative).  One energy encourages continuing with what you are doing, the
other discourages you to continue as it encourages you to stop, look, listen
and make some adjustments in how you are navigating the world - change
either your map or your experiences or both!

 

2) Emotions are just processes of the mind-body system.

Emotions are not things!   They are not solid.  Emotions are activities
going on within your mind-body system and so produce them each moment as
energies to move at from where you current are, to move out forward or away
from.  So welcome the process and learn from it.  How are you creating that
process that you're experiencing?  Are you creating it in your mapping, in
your body and how you're using your physiology (your eating, sleeping,
exercising, etc.)?  What adjustments in these processes will give you more
mastery over the somatic feelings?

 

3) Emotions are always right.

Your emotions are right to the maps and experiences out of which they arise!
Say that to yourself, "My emotions are okay, they are right.  They are not
"bad" and don't need to be punished.  I don't need to feel bad about the
emotions I'm experiencing."  Now embrace them, welcome them, accept them,
and most importantly learn from them.  How are you creating them?  What do
you need to learn?  What changes in your mapping or experiencing?  How well
are you coping with the context in which the emotions are arising?  What new
skills do you need?

 

4) Emotions are just emotions.

Repeat this frame 100 days every day until you know this inside-out.  Your
emotions are not orders about what to do.  Your emotions are not indicators
of external reality.  And especially, your emotions are completely fallible!
They are not an infallible voice or authority.  You do not have to "obey"
them or "be true to them."  They are just messages about the difference
you're experiencing right now between what (and how) you have mapped
something and your experience in the territory that you are wanting to
navigate.  That's all.

 

5) Emotions are always relative, conditional, and liable to error
(fallible).

Your emotions are relative to your maps and experiences and so are
informational about your mental mapping and experiential activities.
Emotions can be very wrong and erroneous to the outside world.  Do you know
that?  They can be erroneous!  They can be a reflection of distorted
thinking and fallacious reasoning.  What cognitive distortions can you find
in your mental mapping that's creating a lot of the trouble in your
emotions?  Are you willing to find out?  If anything needs to be eliminated
it is not the energy of your emotions, it is the fallacious and distorted
cognitions in your thinking.  If you have been guilty of worshiping your
emotions and treating them like god, it's time that you become an atheist of
that old belief.  Your emotions may be from drinking too much, eating too
much or eating the wrong stuff!

 

6) Emotions are somatic registering of our meanings.

Your emotions give clues about your Matrix.  The bottom line is that you
feel our meanings.  We all do!  Your emotions are symptoms of your Matrix of
frames- form all of the meanings (understandings, beliefs, expectations,
memories, imaginations, etc.) that you map about something.  So your
emotions always make sense even if they may be really dysfunctional to your
self-actualization.  In your emoting, your body is given you a somatic
registering of some of your meanings.  How are you at creating great
meanings?  How are you at suspending old and stupid meanings that you no
longer need?

 

7) Emotions can be responded to in a variety of ways.

You can listen to them, suppress them, ignore their message, obey them,
release them, take them into consideration, etc.   There's lots of things
that you can do.  How do you want to respond when you feel a given emotion?
How do you want to respond to anger or fear or joy or playfulness?  You can
qualify your emotions.  You can meta-state them and bring whatever
resourceful quality that you want to bring.  After all, the quality of your
states is the quality of your meta-states.  So what will you choose to do?

 

 

 

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