[Neurons] FW: 2023 Neurons #53 I WANT NO CLONES!

Sun Nov 19 17:03:25 EST 2023

From: L. Michael Hall

2023 Neurons #53

November 20, 2023

NLP A Thinking Model #5

                     I WANT NO CLONES!

Whenever I write, what I always end up writing is an opinion piece.  It can
be none other.  And even though I explicitly noted that I was writing an
"Opinion Piece" in a few recent articles, that is all I have ever written.
It is also all I can write.  Why?  Because I can never write absolute truth.
And for that matter, no one can.  That's not within our prerogative as human
beings!  If anyone thinks he can, well, he has a deep psychological problem.
All we can write is from our perspective and out of our human fallibility.

When I write, I aim to do the best I can.  I seek to write using my best
knowledge, my best research skills, my best thinking skills, and my best
intentions.  I hope you do too when you write.  And when I write, I don't
want clones!  I want thinking men and women so that we can then have indepth
conversations that get to the heart of things.  That's what I've been
developing in Meta-Coaching since 2000.  Actually, when I write articles or
books, my goal is not to get you to agree with me-it is to get you to think.
What you conclude is always your business and your conclusions do not have
to agree with me.  Actually, from time to time, I find that I don't even
agree with me-with my previous self.  What I wrote at a certain time, while
it may have been the best I could do at that time, I later found that it had
certain flaws, and so I updated my thinking and my writing.  (I often tell
the story of finding four significant errors in the first volume of
Meta-States-mistakes that I corrected in subsequent editions.)

What I want is intense dialogues where we can make an argument for or
against something that we care about (and passionately care about), and then
examine the quality of thinking which goes into those arguments.  I want
fierce conversations about things that matter where we can together identify
and clean out any and all cognitive distortions, biases, and/or fallacies
that contaminate our thinking and concluding.  I want conversations with
people who know how to stay calm, cool, compassionate, and respectful even
when we radically disagree.  Above and beyond agreeing, is being able to
help each other think critically and creatively, because if we can do that,
then we can together solve the big problems that face humanity.  And then,
everybody wins.

It is intolerance, rigidness, and dogmatism that stops healthy exchange of
ideas.  That does no one any good.  Where there is intolerance, the
conversation comes to an end.  Actually intolerance prevents a dialogue from
ever beginning.  Now people push for conformity of thinking. 

"You must see things my way.  If you don't, then you are bad and you may be
my enemy.  If so, then I have the right to attack you and use any means to
force compliance to my ideas."

If the step after an intellectual intolerance is dogmatism and demanding
compliance, the step after that is violence, physically hurting or attacking
people who disagree.  Now we are back in the "Dark Ages" where we are trying
to solve differences with inquisitions, torture, and wars.  Interesting
enough, we are not all that far removed from the Dark Ages.  In many ways,
we are still living there.

When people learn how to truly think-to openly, curiously, and critically
think-then we can talk about anything.  Nothing is off the table.  After
all, our talking is externalizing our thinking and our thinking is the heart
and soul of our meaning-making.  We are making a map using our intelligence
and experience and skills and hopefully, to the best of our ability.  We are
not dictating a new set of commandments.  

When we share out thinking with each other, we are thinking out-loud in the
presence of others.  Now we can bounce our ideas off of each other.  In that
way, we allow our meanings to flow through them and their meanings to flow
through us.  That's the literal breakdown of the word dialogue- dia
(through) and logos (word or meaning).  And it is through effective and
respectful dialogue that we can come to know and understand each other.
That's what every client in coaching wants, needs, and expects.  

So, let there be no clones!  Let's put away any goal such as seeking to get
others to conform to our thinking.  That's not a winning formula.  After
all, we can all be wrong on something and when we are, increasing the
numbers of those who agree with us does not get us closer to the truth, and
in fact, may blind us to our need to think and re-think.  Let's define
success as thinking individuals talking together who share differences in
perspectives and solutions. 

About Voting

From: L. Michael Hall

While I will never get use to the designation "gurus" because of all that it
implies, every year they run this thing.  I do it because it gives more
credibility and publicity to Neuro-Semantic NLP and what we are trying to do
in raising the quality and professionalism of this field. 

Voting helps with that promotion, so if you would be so kind as to vote for
myself as the most public face for Neuro-Semantics at this time.

At the top click "Vote Here" then NLP (9th one down).

   <https://globalgurus.org/nlp/> https://globalgurus.org/nlp/

Voting will end on 20th December 2023.

L. Michael Hall, Ph.D.

738 Beaver Lodge

Grand Jct., CO. 81505 USA

(970) 523-7877

meta at acsol.net

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