[Neurons] 2020 Neurons #46 NLP IS ENOUGH -- IF YOU COLLABORATE

[Michael Hall]

From: L. Michael Hall   

2020 Neurons #46

September 7, 2020

A Good Word for NLP series #4

 

 

NLP IS ENOUGH

IF YOU CAN COLLABORATE

 


 

If you are a trainer, coach, consult, or client and customer, I believe that
NLP is plenty enough for you.  Well, another qualifier- it is enough if you
collaborate.  As a communication model, the Neuro-Linguistic Programming
model is about people interacting, dialoguing, seeking to understand each
other, work together, create partnerships, build effective teams, and
modeling expertise from experts.  And all of that is social.  It is
interpersonal.  It is not an individualistic, "I'll do it by myself" thing.

 

But NLP goes wrong when it is used individualistically to get your own way.
That's when it becomes manipulative and abusive.  To the extent that you
think of it in individualistic terms and use it individualistically, to that
extent it becomes distorted and less effective.  You even have to think in
non-individualistic terms to use it well with yourself.  You have to
collaborate with yourself, recognize that you are a system of interactive
parts and apply it to yourself.  If you don't, you end up with a corrupted
form of NLP.

 

You may not know it, but NLP was not created by two men, it actually began
as a collaboration of some two dozen persons.  It began as Bandler and
Pucelik worked with a group of a dozen or more students who wanted to learn
and experience Gestalt Therapy.  Eventually that group morphed into three or
more additional groups over the next three years.  Grinder entered into the
collaboration once the first group began experiencing transformations and
didn't understood how it was happening.

 

Even later, in the first years when NLP got its name and original
organization- there was another group of collaborators who made that
happened.  That included Dilts, DeLozier, Cameron, Gordon, McClendon,
Andreas', and many others.  In this, there were many co-developers and it
was in and through collaboration that it was so creative and productive.

 

What messed it up was the raw, rugged individualism that was introduced and
demonstrated by two of the founders, Bandler and Grinder.  In fact, their
first act of anti-collaboration was the act that initiated Meta (that's what
it was called before it received the name, NLP) onto the public awareness.
Unknown to the others, Bandler and Grinder wrote up the discoveries of
Pucelik and the Gestalt group, "the meta-model of language in therapy" and
intentionally left out Pucelik and everybody else.  They claimed it to have
invented it all by themselves.  (All of that is detailed in the book, NLP
Secrets: Untold Stories, 2018).

 

Today we understand collaboration and its value much more than ever before.
We understand the potential power and productivity of a highly effective
group.  That's why we spend money on training people to learn how to be an
effective team and how leadership teams can learn the competencies of shared
leadership.  Ian McDermott and I wrote an entire book on Collaborative
Leadership (2016) after modeling some good examples of such.

 

How was collaboration so important at the beginning of NLP?  Obviously, it
emerged from the creative contributions of numerous people- not only the
three founders, the dozen or more co-developers, but also the multiple
experts that they either modeled or took their ideas from.  That's why and
how NLP is an inter-disciplinary subject.  It combines linguistics (both
Transformational Grammar and General Semantics) with neurology and
programming (Gestalt experiments, pragmatic experiences, experiential
learning processes, group experiences, patterns, reframing, family systems
constellations, etc.).

 

Collaboration is built into NLP in another way.  As a communication model it
inevitably involves a dialogue and the relationships we build by the many
different kinds of conversations that we can initiate.

 

If you are a professional who uses NLP as your model for communication or
modeling- collaborate!  Get with others who use it so that you can expand
your horizons.  Interacting with others will both challenge and expand your
own model of the world.  You don't know it all- no one does.  Others have
perspectives you do not, but which you can tap into if you engage them in
collaborative conversations.  And when you do, then both of you will grow
and the NLP model itself can potentially grow.  It happened at the beginning
and it is still happening.

 

 

 

 

L. Michael Hall, Ph.D.

Executive Director, Neuro-Semantics

P.O. Box 8

Clifton CO. 81520 USA

www.neurosemantics.com   

 

The stunning new history of NLP--- NLP Secrets.  

Investigative Journalism which has exposed what has been kept secrets for
decades. 

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