[Neurons] 2018 Neurons #37 GETTING OVER YOUR PAST CODES

[Michael Hall]

From: L. Michael Hall

2018 Neurons #37

September 3, 2018

Getting Over the Past Series (#3) 

 

 

GETTING OVER

YOUR PAST CODES

 

To get over the past, you need to understand about the concept that we call
"time"-what it is, what it is not, what you are actually referring to when
you speak about the past (or the future).  Since you cannot see it, hear it,
feel it, taste it, or smell it-the "time" that you speak of is not
empirical.  It is not part of sensory reality.  It exists not in the
external world, but in the internal world.  It is an idea-a concept, an
understanding.

 

What then do we have "out there" in the external world that we use to
construct the idea of time?  Answer: Events.  To have "time" you have to
have events and you have to compare events.  That's what the clock does.
The clock compares the revolving of planet earth in relationship to the sun.
As the planet faces the sun, we call that "day" time and when it turns away
from the sun, we have "night" time.  By dividing that event then into hours
and minutes and seconds, we end up with what we usually mean by "time."

 

Conceptually, time arises in each of our minds as we compare events.  That
gives us the three time zones (past events, current events, and future
events).  So what is "the past?"  It is the events (activities, actions,
experiences) that have already occurred.  You keep them by remembering them.
And to "hold them in mind" or memory-you give them lots of meanings.
Conversely, when you remove meaning so they don't hold any significance to
you, when you do not invest significance into them, then you won't remember
them.  They will pass on (out of your memory).  They will stop affecting
you.

 

This now gives you yet another way to get over the past-namely, change the
meanings.  If it remains a living part of your semantic network today
because of how you invest meaning in it, then de-investing meaning in that
event or experience will free you from it.  This is easier said than done
because de-investing means letting go, releasing, forgiving, etc.

 

Now one way you keep things in mind is to use the previous events as
references.  That is, you refer to a previous activity or experience in
order to understand current activities that are similar or that remind you
of the former.  This process describes how you understand anything.  You
establish a reference, a frame-of-reference, as a template for
understanding.  We ask, "What are you referring to?"  Think about "insult"
and you understand that term by relating it to previous references.  So with
all words.

 

Past references are good when you use them for resourceful learning, for
finding resources for current challenges, and for feeling good.  They are
not so good or valuable for feeling bad again, for re-traumatizing, for
keeping resentments, for feeling bitter, etc.  Now when it comes to getting
over the past, it's essential that you make sure that you have permission to
do that.

 

Another process is establishing a strong robust sense of now, that is, of
today.  This is what Perls was doing with his mantra statements: "Lose your
mind and come to your sense; be here now."  What the losing of the mind (the
meta-mind) does is break the old trances of the past and their post-hypnotic
suggestions.  The stronger your grasp is on today, on the present, the less
of a hold the past will have upon you.

 

Finally, there's that statement from Richard Bandler, "It's never too late
to have a happy childhood."  The reason that you can still have "a happy
childhood" is because you can recode your past.  You can "change your
personal history" to such an extent that you can find resources today about
healthy parenting and induce yourself into that story and make it yours.
You can use your imagination, invent an imaginary guided tour to a happy and
healthy childhood and experience in your mind what you did not actually
have.  Doing that will give you the references that you did not have in
actual history, but now you have in memory.

 

Then, as you get over the past, you can begin to use your past for more
resource things.  You can use your past for learning, for finding resources
and having useful references, and for feeling good (nostalgia).  There is
simply no reason or valid use of using your past to feel bad.  Wasn't once
enough?  And the purpose of remembering a negative event is to learn from
it, not to re-experience it.  So to "get over the past"-change your code of
the past, especially of those referent events that you have given too much
meaning to.

 

Use the NLP Patterns     - Change Personal History; Decision Destroyer.

For time-line patterns   - See Adventures in Time Lines (1997).

                                                                      

 

 

L. Michael Hall, Ph.D., Executive Director 

Neuro-Semantics 

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