[Neurons] 2017 Neurons #12 Self & Other in Moving Up to Self-Actualization

Mon Mar 13 05:49:35 EDT 2017

From: L. Michael Hall

2017 "Neurons" #12

March 13, 2017

SELF AND OTHER

IN MOVING UP TO SELF-ACTUALIZATION

You know about the hierarchy of needs.  You've seen the pyramid that is
typically used to represent the levels of human needs and you may have
become acquainted with the two different kinds of motivations within this
hierarchy of human drives: the D- and the B-needs.  The D-needs are those
driven by the mechanism of deficiency.  The B-needs are driven by the
mechanism of abundance, that is, to be without an instrumental purpose.

This was how Abraham Maslow mapped out the area of human "motivation and
personality" in his classic book by that title.  The first four levels of
needs are hierarchical in that the lower needs are more predominant and
powerful (prepotent) than the higher needs and that as a person gratifies
the lower needs, this gives rise to the emergence of the higher needs.

Because deficiency drives the lower needs, they arise from lack and
scarcity.  Then when gratified, they go away.  They cease to drive.  Their
motivation ceases and so we no longer experience their urges to act.  Maslow
called the first four levels the basic needs and noted several things about
them.

First, the higher intelligent animals have these needs.  The social animals
need love and affection, bonding, connection, and belonging and with that
they need to know that they are important and valuable in their community.
These are not uniquely human needs, they are animal needs!  And, as Maslow
said, "Be a good animal.  Have good healthy appetites for these needs."

Second, the lower or basic human needs which are biological and which we
share with the animals describes "the jungle."  In these levels of needs, we
are seeking primarily to get.  We need.  Whether it is the survival needs,
safety needs, social needs, or self needs- these are basic to physical and
psychological well-being. 

When we move to the higher needs, these are being needs- we need these, not
for any particular purpose.  They are not instrumental like the lower needs.
We need them simply to be and to express our humanity.  And it is these
needs that bring out our humanity so that we begin to become what we are
designed to be.  It brings out our highest meanings and values and it leads
us to our best performances.  Here we become real- authentic human beings.
This realm is about giving, not getting.  It is your gift and expression to
humanity.

The diagram included here, The Self-Actualization Assessment Scale gives you
an overview of the specific human needs at the five levels.  (See the
diagram.)

An interesting perspective starts with the basic, lower, and deficiency
needs focusing on getting and the higher, being, and abundance needs focused
on giving.  About living a self-actualizing life, this says that as you move
upward into the truly human needs- you live a life of contribution, giving,
and making a difference.  Your life is no longer solely about yourself.  It
is about others.

When you start meeting your needs, your focus is on you- surviving,
stabilizing, belonging, validating your value and then you move to focusing
on others- the expression of your gifts and potentials.  And yet, it is not
quite that simple. There's another complexity.  Actually the shift from self
to other oscillates as you move up the hierarchy of needs.  That is, there
is a dialectic tension, first of differentiation of your self and the of
integration with others.

It begins with a focus on you- on your self surviving.  Here others take
care of you.  They feed, clothe, nurse, care, love, protect, etc.  In this
period, we differentiate ourselves and now we enter into the social area
where we need to belong and to be loved and cared for.  Now the focus shifts
to others- how to get along, how to understand others, how to relate.  Once
we figure out how to gratify this human need, the focus oscillates again
from other to self.  Now we ask, "Am I important?  Do I count?"  This is the
human need for value and worth.  Upon gratification of this need, the focus
oscillates again, from self to others and to the self-actualization needs.

Self-> Other -> Self -> Other.  And because these needs are never "once and
forever" gratified, but keep re-emerging as we develop over the life span,
we are forever shifting back and forth.  Self is your base; other is the
target of your love.   It is not all about you.  Yet it involves you.  So
similar to the safety announcements on flights- first you, "Put on your
oxygen mask first, then help those around you with theirs."
Self-actualization is through you, never about you.

L. Michael Hall, Ph.D.

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