[Neurons] The Next Book in the Meta-Coaching Series
L. Michael Hall
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Wed Aug 31 13:45:51 EDT 2016
From: L. Michael Hall
Re: Promotion of the Newest Book
What began in 2002 --- writing out the full curriculum of the Meta-Coaching
System--- this is now the 14th book. This book, in fact, focuses on the
ultimate purpose of coaching --- to invite, challenge, enable, empower, and
facilitate a person to get real--- to become his or her own authentic self.
Below I have put the Table of Contents, and the Preface so you can get a
sense of the book.
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GETTING REAL
Unleashing Authenticity
Preface
Part I:
Understanding Authenticity
1: Authenticity: The Human
Adventure
2: Authenticity: Definition
What it is and What it is not
3: Authentically Living Truth
How Does Authenticity Work?
4: What You Are Not:
Self-Expressions and
Your Real Self
5: Your Highest Self:
Your Multi-Ordinal Selves
6: Blocks to Authenticity
Part II: Unleashing Authenticity
The Multiple Dimensions for Getting Real
7: Unleashing Authentic
Conversations
8: Unleashing Your Responsible
Self
9: Unleashing Your Physical Self
10: Unleashing Your Transcendent
Self
11: Unleashing your Authentic Self
12: Unleashing Your Intentional Self
13: Unleashing Your Emotional Self
14: Unleashing Your Relational Self
15: Unleashing Your Career Self
16: Unleashing Your Wealth Self
17: Unleashing Authentic
Leadership
Part III: Actualizing Authenticity
18: The Skills for Unleashing
Authenticity
19. Coaching Authenticity
20. Are You Having Fun Yet?
Bibliography
Index
Author
PREFACE
M
argery Williams tells this story about becoming real in her delightful book,
The Velveteen Rabbit, How Toys Become Real (1926). It is an imaginative
story of a child's toys talking about what it means to be real.
Late at night in a child's bedroom, a skin horse and a stuffed rabbit sit up
and talk about what it means to be real. The Skin Horse says, "Real isn't
how you are made; it's a thing that happens to you. When a child loves you
for a long, long time, not just to play with but really loves you, then you
become Real."
"Does it hurt?" asks the Rabbit.
"Sometimes," said the Skin Horse, for he was always truthful. "When you are
Real, you don't mind being hurt."
"Does it happen all at once, like being wound up, or bit by bit?"
"It doesn't happen all at once," said the Skin Horse. "You become. It
takes a long time. That's why it doesn't often happen to people who break
easily, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are
Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out, and you
get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don't matter at
all, because once you are Real, you can't be ugly, except to the people who
don't understand.
Getting real is the heart of Self-Actualization Psychology-its ultimate
vision and objective. In Neuro-Semantics, we seek to unleash this passion
for authenticity through training, coaching, consulting, therapy, etc. Our
aim is to be real ourselves, and to invite as many people we can, to catch
this vision and so to step up to the adventure of becoming a real person.
Why? Because authenticity lies at the heart of being human living with
passion and love. Authenticity keeps your humanity fresh and alive and when
you're real, you'll be more focused on what's meaningful and inspirational.
It's the source of true joy.
Not surprisingly, most people intuitively know this. After all, if you
really
want to offend most people, religious or not, just call someone a hypocrite!
Say, "You are faking it, you're not for real." For most people, the charge
of hypocrisy is one of the worse things that you can call them. It's worse
than most four-letter words. Why is that? What causes this sensitivity to
the idea of being inauthentic? Could it be that we are made to be real and
that being real is one of the highest being-needs inside us? I think it is.
If so, then the drive to be, and to become, a real authentic human being is
built into you and lies at the heart of your greatest joys. It's what you
are made for. And yet ...
And yet this is one of the most challenging aspects of life. For a variety
of reasons that I'll get into in this book, to get real is one of the most
challenging and difficult of all experiences. Strange but true. Further,
because real is what we become, it usually takes a life-time. The Skin
Horse said it takes a long time. He said that it takes a lifetime of loving
and being loved. It also involves effort.
"By the time you are real, most of your hair has been loved off, your eyes
drop out, and you get loose in the joints, and very shabby."
Yet somehow, and in some way, that's okay. "These things don't matter
because once you are real, you can't be ugly." Apparently, becoming
authentically human makes you beautiful. It is a beauty that any and every
person can grow into regardless of what they look on the outside. An
authentic person is a beautiful person-a person of truth, elegance,
congruence, and love.
All of this, of course, raises lots of questions-questions which we will
raise and address in this book. These fundamental questions regarding
authenticity will be our focus here:
What is "real?" What makes you truly real?
How do you get there? What's involved in the process?
How does a person unleash authenticity?
What are some of the challenges and barriers that you will have
to deal with along the way?
What's the cost of authenticity? What price may you be called
upon to pay for it?
What are the payoffs for authenticity?
What are the skills that facilitate authenticity?
How do you coach someone to become real?
Authenticity in the Larger Context
>From individually and personally becoming real, there is the larger context
of society that also requires your authentic self. This is true for
families, for companies, for associations, for international organizations,
and even for governments.
In recent years many of the key thinkers, writers, researchers, consultants,
and executive coaches in the field of business have noted the importance of
people and companies getting real. For example, Larry Bossidy and Ram
Charan (2002) speak about this in their work on Execution: The Discipline of
Getting Things Done.
"You cannot have an execution culture without a robust dialogue-one that
brings reality to the surface through openness, candor, and informality. ...
The reason most companies don't face reality very well is that their
dialogues are ineffective." (2002: p. 102-103)
Authenticity at all levels-personal and institutionalized-involves robust
and fierce conversations. These are real dialogues that cut through the
surface presentations and get to the heart of the matter. For that reason,
they can be intense, even intimidating. That's because they are direct and
ruthless in going after the truth. Yet if conducted with compassion, even
love, the candor they require can be one of the most liberating forces in
our lives.
In the following pages, I will quote many others on liberating forces which
are the critical success factor of authenticity in leadership and
management. The point is that getting real is not just for your own
psychological and physiological health and well-being. Yes, it is for that.
Yet it is not only for that. It is for much more. It is also for the
well-being of our families, organizations, companies, governments, and
societies. In fact, the health and robustness of organizations and cultures
depend on the ability of people within them to be real and authentic-to be
honest, forthright, and standing for the highest ethical standards. It
depends on them being human and humane and in creating a human-based culture
that allows people to be real as they work and relate. To describe it is
simple, the challenge is to live it.
In the following pages I have extensively quoted Abraham Maslow on this
subject. If you want to know why, there is a good reason. He was the
primary person who pioneered the new psychology that highlights this area.
It is called by a number of names-Humanistic Psychology, Growth Psychology,
and Self-Actualization Psychology. It eventuated into the Human Potential
Movement in the 1960s and 1970s. That movement searched for the mechanisms
to be able to elicit authenticity in people. Unfortunately, while they
found many factors and variables of the self-actualizing process, they did
not discover any technique that they could count on working consistently and
regularly.
It was only later, in stepping back, reviewing that history, and examining
their discoveries that I came upon a process for modeling self-actualization
and the self-actualization process of unleashing potentials-the
Self-Actualization Quadrants. This model is based on the Meaning and
Performance Axes of Neuro-Semantics and enables us to navigate the processes
for becoming a real person. This model enables us to specify the skills
required for facilitating getting real. So if are you ready for the
adventure of a lifetime, go ahead- turn the page and let the odyssey begin!
Meta-Coaching Series
In the field of Coaching, the Meta-Coaching System is a leading model in
framing the process of effective coaching in a highly systematic way. The
design is to provide a Professional Coach the ability to know what to do,
when to do it, how to do it, with whom to do it, and why to do it. The
design also is to establish the field of coaching in the unique psychology
for psychologically healthy people who want to change and develop, namely,
Self-Actualization Psychology. To achieve that Dr. Hall has committed to
writing the models and processes in a series of books that comprise the
curriculum of Meta-Coaching.
Meta-Coaching Series
Volume Title Model
I: Coaching Change
Axes of Change Model
II: Coaching
Conversations Facilitation Model
III: Unleashed: Self-Actualization
Self-Actualization Quadrants
IV: Self-Actualization
Psychology Self-Actualization Volcano
V: Achieving Peak
Performance Meaning-Performance Axes
VI: Unleashing
Leadership: Axes of Leadership
Self-Actualizing Leaders & Companies
VII: The Crucible
The Crucible Model
VIII: Benchmarking
Intangibles Benchmarking Model
IX: Systemic
Meta-Coaching The Matrix Model
X: Group & Team Meta-Coaching Group Trust Spiral
XI: Executive Coaching
XII:
Political Coaching:
XIII: The
Meta-Coaching System
XIV: Get Real: Unleashing Authenticity
XV: Unleashing Influence: Inside-Out Persuasion ---
estimated in 2017
XVI: Unleashing Creativity
estimated for 2018
Supplementary Books for Professional Coaching:
Figuring Out People (2006) The
Meta-Programs Model
Secrets of Personal Mastery (1997) The
Meta-States Model
Winning the Inner Game (2007) The Meta-States Model
The Matrix Model (2003) Neuro-Semantic Systems
Model
Communication Magic (1999) The Meta-Model
of Language
L. Michael Hall, Ph.D.
Neuro-Semantics Executive Director
Neuro-Semantics International
P.O. Box 8
Clifton, CO. 81520 USA
1 970-523-7877
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