[Neurons] 2016 Neurons -- An Attitude is a Meta-State #13

[L. Michael Hall]

L. Michael Hall

Meta Reflections #8

February 22, 2016 

Meta-States "Genius" Series (APG) #13

 

 

AN ATTITUDE IS A META-STATE

 

 

Here is something that everyone has heard and that most people fully agree
with- Attitude is everything.  Do you believe that?  Most of us know that in
just about any and every situation, a person's attitude makes a tremendous
difference.  Success and failure often hinge on attitude.  Resilience and
defeat often teeter on attitude.  Close bonding with a loved one and/or
bitter resentment can even turn on an attitude.  We also know that sometimes
a person will adopt a horrendous attitude about something and that attitude
will consume them, make them sick, undermine their immune system.

"He has copped an attitude about authority; I can't even stand to be around
him."

"She'd be great in that position in terms of her skills, but her whiny
attitude makes her obnoxious."

 

This is true for just about everything in human experience, isn't it?  Take
learning as a prototype.  Attitude governs not only the quality of your
learning but also your ability to learn.  To undermine your learning, to
prevent yourself from effectively learning-all you need is a "stickin'
attitude."  Hate learning, despise the person teaching, think others are
getting special treatment, imagine the presenter has a "thing" against you,
and so on-and you can go through the learning experience and yet learn
nothing.  The attitude can completely nullify the learning.  Amazing,
wouldn't you say?

 

So, how is your attitude?  Take anything and step back and ask yourself,
"What is my attitude about this?"  Or perhaps do this: Talk to someone about
that subject and invite them to ask you repeatedly, "What is your attitude
about X?"

           What's your attitude about problems, difficulties, mistakes?

           What's your attitude about business?  Money?  Charging?  Asking
for business?

           What's your attitude about selling?  Influencing others?  Trying
to win someone's or a group's mind about your project?

           What's your attitude about exercise?  Sweating?  Eating healthy
foods?

 

Now for the connection between attitude and meta-states.  Every attitude is
a meta-state!  That is, whenever you consider an attitude, you are actually
working with a meta-state.  And if it is a meta-state, then knowing the
structure of a meta-state means that you can do something about it.

 

Analyze the Attitude 

Begin with the subject or theme of the attitude.  Complete this sentence
stem: "It is an attitude about ___."  This will enable you to specify the
primary state.  For example: It is about work.  It is about saving money.
It is about being frugal.  It is about following a schedule.  Now you have
your primary state, so describe it in sensory-based terms (see, hear, feel
terms).

 

Next, now that you have a primary state description, explore the meta-state
frames that you or another person has about it.  "What do you think or feel
about X (the primary state)?"  "What images, meanings, awarenesses, etc.
come to mind when X is mentioned?"  Ask these questions repeatedly so that
you get the frames that are in the back of your mind about it.

 

Once you have that, repeat the meta-frame elicitation.  "Let's say Y comes
to mind.  Let's say that idea or feeling is true for you, if that's true for
you, what do you think, believe, understand, etc. about that?"  This holds
the first frame and enables you to get the next level frame.  With this you
now have a structural description of the attitude.  You now can see how your
attitude is constructed and held together.

 

Quality Control the Attitude

Does that attitude enhance your life?  Does it empower you as a person?
Does it set in motion the consequences that you want?  Is this your highest
spiritual pathway?  Does it reflect your highest values?

 

Built up a New Enhancing Attitude 

What attitude would you like to have?  First identify the context and
subject and ground in sensory-description the primary state where that
attitude would be required.  Then asnwer the meta-frame elicitation
questions: "What do you need to think, feel, believe, understand, decide,
etc. about that which would create the desired attitude?"

 

If you want a robust attitude of determination so you courageously and
persistently stick with something, where and when do you want that?  And
what do you need to think and feel so that you have that attitude?  If you
want a resilient attitude of always bouncing back when you experience a
set-back, what do you need to perceive, understand, etc.? 

 

Knowing meta-states and the structure of meta-states, it is now possible for
you to design-engineer the attitude that you want and need.  You can now
create the right frame of mind for any given context that you have to face.
You can also now interview people you admire who have an attitude that you'd
like to have.  That is, you can now model their "attitude" precisely because
you know what comprises an attitude.  Do you want an attitude of
collaboration?  Of abundance?  Of equality with people?  With a
servant-leadership?  All of that is now possible.  It is available to you
through using the Meta-States Model.

 

 

 

 

 

L. Michael Hall, Ph.D.

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