[Neurons] 2013 "Neurons" --- Meta Reflections #43

[L. Michael Hall]

From: L. Michael Hall                                                 

Meta Reflections 2013  #43

Oct. 7, 2013


Transcendence #2

 

 

 

DEALING WITH YOUR

INNATE TRANSCENDENCE

 

 

Because "Transcendence is Included," because it is part and parcel of being
human, and because  it is innate to our human nature, one aspect of your
humanity and mine involves how we deal with transcendence.  The first thing
we need to do to deal with it is to recognize it.  Now the funny or odd
thing is that you can experience this strange sense of stepping outside or
beyond yourself to become aware of yourself and talk about it without
recognizing it.  People do it all the time.  If you listen, you can hear
them do it.

 

Listen to them meta-comment.  "I know this sounds silly, but I've been
thinking about it a lot..."  "I feel foolish when I said that."  "I don't
know where that just came from, it just popped into my head... but that's a
great idea."  The ability to meta-comment entails the ability to use your
awareness-of-your-awareness as you step back from your experience and
comment on it, and this is something that happens many times every day to
all of us.  Yet most people never notice it.  And when we train the
Meta-Coaches to begin to notice them and use them for deepening the
conversation or to use meta-comments to set frames, most find it difficult
to become fluent with this awareness.

 

But that's not the big problem with recognizing and detecting it, the big
problem occurs when you use your self-reflexive consciousness against
yourself.  And that also is very common-very common.  And again, if you have
ears to hear, you can hear this all the time as when people say, "I'm really
stupid."  "What's wrong with me that I mess up like that?"  "I will never
get this right."   The reflexivity within these statements turn one's
negative thinking-and-feeling against oneself and that energy has no where
to go except to be registered and felt in one's mind and emotions and body.
And structurally, these statements are expressions of self-attack,
self-accusation, self-rejection, self-contempt, and so on.

 

When I first introduced the Meta-States Model I used the metaphor of a
dragon and called these dragon states-unresourceful states in which we have
turned our thinking-and-feeling against ourselves so that we are in some
form and some degree of self-abuse.  In the book Dragon Slaying (1995/2000)
I included nearly two dozen chapters on the most common dragon states.  And
as noted there as every Neuro-Semantic trainer notes in training Accessing
Personal Genius (APG), this is a misuse of human self-reflexivity.  And the
simple solution is to raise your hand and make a promise to yourself to be
kinder and gentler with oneself and never again bring your energy against
yourself.  Attacking yourself is not going to make things better.  It just
confuses you as a person with your behaviors, even your thoughts and
feelings.

 

This is how transcendence is built into the core of the Meta-States Model
and hence the Neuro-Semantic approach to NLP as I wrote in the last post.
By "going meta" to your own experiences, to your macro and micro behaviors,
to your states, emotions, mistakes, etc., you "step up" to a broader
experience of yourself and when you do so . . .  if you then judge yourself,
that's going to set a judgment frame against yourself.  And when you do
that, you not only put yourself into a box, you  misuse this wonderful power
and may become afraid of yourself.

 

Now for some personal questions for you regarding how you deal with your own
reflexivity and when you have one of those experiences in which you seem to
transcend yourself:

           Do you like and enjoy the way you have used and are using your
self-reflexive consciousness?

           Do you like and enjoy your own experiences of transcendence?

           When you do step back and notice your own experiencing, is that
a "spiritual" kind of experience for you?

           Do you ever turn your mental-emotional energy against yourself
so that you engage in some kind of self-abuse?

                                                

Now from what I've written it should be obvious that the best way to deal
with your transcendence ability is to accept and appreciate it.  It is to
step back (go meta) and be kind and gentle with yourself.  How skilled are
you at that?  Where would you gauge yourself in using your self-reflexivity
and sense of transcendence to step back from your self and love your self in
a kind and gentle way?

 

Now if this offends you because you come from the biblical faith, then let
me quote two verses.  The first one comes from Genesis where it is said
that, "God made man in his own image and likeness and said, 'It is good.'"
Say step back and say it, "I'm made in God's image and likeness and it is
good!"  If that's shocking, your feeling of shock indicates your need to
re-adjust your attitude.  The next verse may be even more shocking because
it is not only okay to respect yourself, the spiritual pathway is to love
yourself.

"No man ever hated his own self (his flesh), but nourishes and cherishes it
even as the Lord does to the church." (Ephesians 5:29)

 

How about that?  The apostle Paul suggested that when you step aside from
your self, nourish and cherish yourself!  And just so that you don't
mis-understand what he is saying, he provided an example.  He said it
similar to how the Lord nourishes and cherishes his church.  So if it is
good for Jesus to "nourish and cherish" his people, it is good enough for
you to "nourish and cherish" yourself.  Transcendence - recognize it,
acknowledge it, accept it, and appreciate it.  That's the beginning.

 

 

 

 

L. Michael Hall, Ph.D.

                Neuro-Semantics Executive Director 

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