[Neurons] 2013 Meta Reflections #28 --- Neurons

[L. Michael Hall]

From: L. Michael Hall

Meta Reflections 2012  #28                                      

June 17, 2013

Emotional Mastery Series #3

 

 

EMOTIONS- RIGHT AND RELATIVE

 

 

In the past two articles, I have identified five of the seven truths about
emotions, and with this one the last two truths.  As a kinesthetic sensation
enriched by meaning (cognitively) an emotion exercises influence on us to
get us to move (motion) out (ex) from where we are.   As a difference
between map-and-territory, these mind-body systemic experiences create
energy, motivation, and vitality within us.  They are therefore important,
but not as ultimate truth, but as relative truth indicating what meanings
our bodies are attempting to actualize.  As somatic registering of our
meanings- they indicate the meanings that we are feeling.

 

5) Emotions are always right - relatively and conditionally to the
map-territory situation. 

Here is the paradox, while fully fallible (definition- "liable to error")
emotions are always right.  How is that?  They are right to the maps out of
which they come and they are right in the context and situation that they
are reflecting.  That's why we should pay attention to them without falling
into the falsehood of "obeying" them.  They do provide information, although
that information may be erroneous.  And what this means is fabulous for
human beings.

 

What this means is that there are no "bad" emotions.  Write that down.
There are no bad emotions.  The judgment of "bad" doesn't apply to this
mind-body function, an emotion is just an emotion.  It arises as a symptom
of how you are thinking in relation to your expectations and skills.  They
are not indicators of external reality.  Instead they indicate the
relationship between our map and our experience of the territory.  In this,
they are completely fallible and not an infallible voice or authority.  Our
emotions can be very wrong and erroneous to the outside world, a reflection
of distorted thinking and fallacious reasoning.

 

6) Emotions can be responded to in a variety of ways.

When it comes to emotions, you and I can respond to them in a wide range of
ways.   We can listen to them, suppress them, ignore their message, obey
them, release them, take them into consideration, etc.  Once we feel an
emotion we can be chose how we will respond, listen to them, ignore them, or
deal with them later.  So, how do you want to respond when you feel any
given emotion?

 

The range of your choices and your flexibility of response describes your
repertoire of skills in responding to your emotions.  So as you develop more
and more ways of responding to your emotions, you'll have a sense of more
choice and more control in your life.  And as you do this, be sure to
quality control your emotions.

 

What does it mean to quality control?  It means to check to see that the
emotion itself, how you are experiencing it, how you are creating it, what
it is registering, and so on is useful for you, helpful, empowering, and
enhancing.  After all, if emotions are fallible, functions of thinking,
meaning-making, and experiencing the territory, then emotions need to be
quality controlled for ecology and realism.

 

So, just because we feel something doesn't demand that you act on it.
Emotions can be distorted and even perverted.  What you feel may not be
real.  You may be feeling an "old" emotion, a dated emotion, an imaginary
emotion, and so on.  So check it out before you just react!  By quality
controlling your emotions, you will discover that you have many more ways of
responding to an emotion and that ultimately, you have that choice.

 

7) Emotions always habituate and become unconscious moods and attitudes.

When an emotion habituates, we live in it and lose awareness of it as an
emotion.  Then the emotion becomes something else, it becomes a mood.  It
becomes an attitude.  It becomes a generalized mind-set or disposition and
when this happens it doesn't so much feel like an emotion.  As it is
repeated and habitualized, it feels so familiar and so comfortable, that you
will experience it as "the way things are," "what's real," and "life as you
know it."

 


Summary

Here then in summary are the 7 truths we speak about emotions in
Neuro-Semantics.  These are not the only "truths" but central to being able
to create and experience a healthy emotional intelligence and emotional
mastery.

 

1) Emotions measure the map / territory difference; they are felt meanings.

2)  Emotions are important as information signals.

3) Emotions are functions of the body as well as the mind.

4) Emotions are just emotions, not commands from heaven or our destiny.

5) Emotions are always right - relatively and conditionally to the
map-territory situation.

6) Emotions can be responded to in a variety of ways.

7) Emotions always habituate and become unconscious moods and attitudes.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

L. Michael Hall, Ph.D.

                Neuro-Semantics Executive Director 

                Neuro-Semantics International

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