[Neurons] 2013 Meta Reflections #21

[L. Michael Hall]

From: L. Michael Hall

2013 Meta Reflections #21

April 29, 2013

Modeling Excellence Series #13

 

 

MODELING

MULTIPLE-STAGE EXPERIENCES

 

 

In the last article in this series, I contrasted two very different kinds of
"subjective experiences," short-term and long-term experiences.  In doing so
I also contrasted the genius of NLP to the genius of Neuro-Semantics.  My
point was that what NLP began regarding modeling the structure of
experience, Neuro-Semantics has continued and expanded with the Meta-States
Model and the Matrix Model.  Here as I continue that discussion, I'll use
resilience as an example.  I'll do that because it is easy to comprehend and
because it was the modeling project from which I discovered the Meta-States
Model.

 

Consider the state of resilience.  What does it feel like?  If you accessed
this state, what are you feeling in your body?  And where?  What are you
thinking and representing in your mind?  What is happening in the auditory
channel?  Difficult questions, are they not?  And why?  Simple - resilience
does not occur in a moment of time.

 

Instead, resilience is what happens over time.  Resilience is what you call
your experience or your state when you look back and notice how you kept
coming back every time something knocked you down.  No wonder resilience is
not a primary state!  No wonder it is next to impossible to point to some
place in your body where you feel resilience.  Resilience is as much a
meta-feeling, that is, a meta-evaluation and a way of orienting yourself to
life or work or sport so that as you anticipate set-backs, illnesses,
mediocre results, big challenges, losses, etc., you see those things through
a certain lens- the resilience lens.

 

And when you see them through the resilience lens- what do you see?  You
anticipate that you'll get through, that you will not be stopped, that
you'll figure out a way, that you have lots of resources to tap into and fix
whatever is wrong, that your vision and dream is too big to let go, etc.
These "thoughts" also are typically not coded in see-hear images like an
internal movie (although they can be).  More usually they are the belief
statements that you say to yourself, the decision beliefs that you have
made, the identity beliefs you have created, etc.

 

And they do not all apply at the same time.  Some apply for the first stage
of resilience, the getting knocked down stage.  Some apply for the second
stage, the emotional roller-coaster stage when one's emotions are all over
the place from shock, anger, begging, demanding, crying, etc.  Some are for
the coping stage during which you develop the skills to cope with the
challenges and solve the problems that they create.  Others are for the
mastery stage when you finally get some things figured out and you're able
to master certain challenges so that they are no longer any challenge at
all.  Finally, some are for the I'm Back! stage.  The experience of
resilience is a multiple-stage experience so that we need multiple
strategies, each of which contributes to the whole.

 

And what holds all of the stages and strategies together?  Usually, many
higher level frames about those frames.  That is, meanings and intentions
that create a self-organizing attractor in your semantic system and which
endows the whole with the quality or texture of "resilience."

"I know I will get through it, it's just a matter of time and learning."

"I will bounce back with renewed energy and inspiration."

 

Here then is a multiple-stage experience.  And this will hold true for the
majority of the most highly desired states and experiences.  Health and
fitness also is not an experience that occurs in a single moment of time,
but like resilience over a period of time.  So also with wealth creation,
leadership, and mastery in anything.  Given the studies of Anders Eriksson
on expertise, every competence requires multiple-stages and therefore time-
and in the case of expertise, 10,000 hours of deliberate practice (that is,
10 years).  

 

None of these experiences will ever fit the pattern of accessing a primary
state where you access, step in, and presto! you have the full experience of
the primary state- joy, love, relaxation, focus, etc.  When you set out to
model any of these primary state experiences, you will not have multiple
stages, but a single stage.  That's why the experience is as close as your
skill for accessing and stepping in.  That's why you can have "instant
relaxation" hence the book by that title that I wrote with Debra Lederer.
You can have "instant joy," "instant love," etc.

 

Multiple-stage experiences are very different.  Here you will find no such
thing as "instant resilience," "instant wealth creation," or "instant health
and fitness."  So modeling these means identifying the stages, finding the
strategy for each stage, identifying the triggers that indicate when to move
into and out of a particular stage, and much more.  This does not mean that
each of these stages operates independently, that each represents a separate
experience.  It does mean that when put together under a larger over-arching
frame, the steps and stages is the meta-detailing of the larger experience. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

L. Michael Hall, Ph.D.

                Neuro-Semantics Executive Director 

                Neuro-Semantics International

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