[Neurons] 2013 Meta Reflections #18

[L. Michael Hall]

From: L. Michael Hall

2013 Meta Reflections #18

April 8, 2013

Modeling Excellence Series #10

 

 

MODELING FRAMES

USING THE MATRIX MODEL

 

 

The Matrix Model originated from the Meta-States Model.  It arose as a way
to express what a "meta-state" is in a way that the average person could
easily understand and use.  So instead of taking about "states," I began
talking about "the games" that we humans play out in our actions and talk.
So where did that idea come from?  From T.A. (Transactional Analysis) and
especially from Tom Harris (I'm Okay; You're Okay, 1970) and from Eric Berne
(Games People Play, 1965).   People play "games."  A game is a set of
actions that you can see or hear and so a "game" is an external expression
of something internal.

 

In T.A., the internal that drives the "game" is a "script"-an idea about
something like one's value or disvalue, or how something works, etc.  It's a
belief, understanding, decision, perspective, etc.  In NLP, following from
Bateson, we call these ideas-"frames" (as described in the last article), so
when we put these two things together, we have frame games.

 

After the discovery of the Meta-States Model in 1994, I spend most of years
from 1998 onward conducing workshops on Frame Games and then I wrote the
book by that title in 199.   (It now has a new title, Winning the Inner
Game, 2007).  As I was modeling selling, writing, learning, business,
relationships, etc. I titled those trainings and training manuals
accordingly.  Games Prolific Writers Play, Games Great Lovers Play (2004),
Games Great Sales People Play, Games Business Experts Play (2002).

 

In these modeling projects I focused on modeling the frames that made the
difference and not just the many micro-strategies that would occur within
the larger subjective experience.  That is, if you consider great lovers,
there would be many, many micro-strategies that they would use for the many,
many activities that go into the larger experience of being a great lover.
In fact, for every act of love (every loving act) there would be a strategy.
Being supportive when a partner is discouraged, planning for some coupling
time during the upcoming week, communicating about daily activities, etc.
Yet above and beyond all of those strategies would be frames-
self-organizing frames that would be the meta-states of the person that
enables one to be a great lover.  These would be meta-states of benevolent
good will, extending oneself for the benefit of another, patient resilience,
forgiveness, magnanimity, etc.

 

The more I worked with frames (meta-states) and the games (behaviors,
languaging) that resulted, the more I talked about "never leaving home
without my state, my self, my meanings, my intentions..."  Then the day came
in Sydney Australia (2001) when my business partner, Bob Bodenhamer, asked
me how many things that I never left home without.  Only know 3 or 4, I said
seven.  That led to a discussion of frames, an extensive revisiting of
Developmental Psychology, and eventually to the creation of the Matrix Model
(2002).  This model combines the processes frames whereby we create our
sense of reality (meaning, intention, and state) with the content frames of
self (self-value, powers, others or relationships, time, and world) of how
we experience ourselves in the activities of life.

 

Then in 2002, Bob Bodenhamer and I had the opportunity to model a human
experience that many find intensely painful-stuttering.  I had written one
or two articles about what General Semantics had discovered about stuttering
and then some people who stuttered contact Bob asking him to work with them
to deal with their stuttering.  That led us to the very first application of
the Matrix Model as we sought to understand stuttering in terms of the seven
sets of frames in the Matrix and how those frames are grounded in the state
of stuttering.

 

Now in using the Matrix Model to model you have to shift from linear
thinking to systems thinking.  The first thing that means is to forget
one-thing-happening-at-a-time and anticipate that while one thing is
happening, other things are simultaneously happening.  Bob and I started
with the trigger.  What triggers the experience of stuttering (or blocking)?
Ultimately we discovered two key things: authority figures and girls (90% of
stutterers are boys!).  So what's the frame?

The meaning frame is first that there is linguistically such a thing as
"stuttering."

And the meaning of that for oneself (self) is that you are flawed and
inadequate.  You first have to define "stuttering" as repeating a particular
letter.

And the meaning of that is that others will see one as flawed and
inadequate.

And that means, "not liked, not valued, not wanted, laughed at, mocked,
rejected, criticized, etc."

 

Of course, with meaning frames like those, no wonder dysfluency
(mis-speaking a letter or repeating a letter) is semantically loaded with
lots and lots of negative emotion!  And if that's the "game" played, then of
course a person will try very, very hard to not mis-speak.  Now we have the
Matrix doing something else.

In the person's power matrix, as the person tries to stop a natural process
(speaking and being dysfluent at times, which is true of everyone), one then
discovers that one cannot (like "trying hard to sleep" which we are also
powerless to do, that only creates insomnia!).   The person then discovers
that he is powerless and helpless.  And that means - I will always be
inadequate and rejected (time) in every domain of life (world).

 

And all of that goes on simultaneously and in a way that sends a person in a
spin, round and round, so that as the negative meanings layer on top of each
other, the person's state gets worse and worse.  All of this gives us a
structural understanding of how to create a good case of stuttering.  It
enables us to model the how of how.   That is, how does a person right now
in this or that context induce a stressful/ fearful state so that one
elicits dys-fluency?  What meanings does a person have to be operating from?
And, of course, if we know the process, the how that a person does
something, we are in an ideal position to know how to interfere with that
process or to preframe it so that it becomes irrelevant.  For more abut
this, you can find some articles on Stuttering on
<http://www.neurosemantics.com/> www.neurosemantics.com and for the full
modeling of the structure of stuttering and what to do to master the
stuttering, see Bob Bodenhamer's book, I Have a Voice (2011) (originally
titled, Mastering Blocking and Stuttering with NLP and Neuro-Semantics,
2004).

 

 

 

L. Michael Hall, Ph.D.

                Neuro-Semantics Executive Director 

                Neuro-Semantics International

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