[Neurons] 2011 Meta Reflections #42

[L. Michael Hall]

L. Michael Hall, Ph.D.

Meta Reflections 2011 - #42

Sept. 5, 2011

 

 

THE META-STATE OF RESILIENCE

Part III: Creating Resilience

 

 

 

To be resilient, you have to have something with which to be resilient.
That's because resilience requires resources which give you bounce for
generating the meta-state of resilience.  Given this, the question is: How
do you build this state for yourself or for others?

 

It all begins (as I mentioned in Part I of this series) with avoiding
contaminating your spirit with the "learned helplessness" that brings the
bad or evil thing "out there" inside yourself.  And that means setting
boundaries for yourself so that you interpret the set-back as 1) external
and not about you, 2) local and not pervasively everywhere, and 3) now and
not forever.  That's step one.  Do this and you create a proactive core
within yourself that enables you to operate from a non-victim role, one that
enables you to look for resources and to focus on solutions.

 

Step two emerges as you recognize that the set-back is not forever, it is
just a matter of time and, "This too will pass."  Knowing that, you set a
higher frame and then know at your deepest level, "I will get through this."
"It's just something to deal with."  Do this and you create the space and
freedom within yourself for accessing the resources you'll need to pull this
off.  Then it is just a matter of how to get through it, how to cope with
the losses, and how to replace them appropriately.  All of this implies
meta-stating yourself with acceptance of life as it is and a problem-solving
mentality that goes to work on addressing whatever has been lost or
set-back.

 

Next, ask the "bounce" question: What puts bounce in your soul?  What
enables you to come back with energy, enthusiasm, excitement, and
commitment?  As you now develop your own personal menu list of resources
that do this for you- you are developing your strategy for coping and
mastery the challenges of life.   Here is a list for identifying the
energizers of resilience within you: 

                Empowerment                 Responsible
Ownership                          Proactive

Acceptance                        Taking Initiative
Appreciation                      Welcoming/

Esteem                                 Counting
Decisive                               Control / Choice

                       Inspiring Music                  Intentionality
Passion                                 Purpose        

                Meaningfulness               Optimism
Solution Focus                   Pleasure/ Excitements

                Creativity                             Love
Trust                                      Forgiveness

                Releasing                             Appreciating
Friendship

 

What's on your list of best resources that puts the most energy and bounce
into your soul?  Identify them and then take the time to access each,
amplify it to the optimal level for you, then set up a trigger (an anchor)
so that you can re-access that resourceful state of thought, emotion, or
body whenever you so desire.

 

At the heart of resilience is being in real-time, that is, being
in-the-moment, and experiencing life here-and-now.  So key to resilience is
being present to this moment.  Yet you could interfere with this
present-ing.  You could sabotage it through resentment (re-sentiment,
feeling the old sentiment again and again), holding onto the past, and/or
living in bitterness or resentment.  Do any of these things and you have a
fool-proof way to avoid the vitality of resilience.  Obviously, not
recommended!

 

In NLP we have a saying about the past: "It's never too late to have a happy
childhood."   That's because whatever memories you are carrying around from
the past and using as your reference system for today is precisely that-
something you are doing today to keep your representations of the past alive
in your body.  Now that you know, stop it!  Change those representations.
Use the "Change Personal History" pattern and create a new and more useful
past to keep within you and to use as your reference.

 

Are you ready for resilience?  Are you ready to take charge of your mind and
heart and not let some set-back set the frame for your future?  Resilience
is not a simple primary state like love or hate, tension or relaxation,
anger or fear, etc.  It is a meta-state and so layered with numerous belief
frames and resourceful states.

 

Want more?  Great.   

See the foundational book for Neuro-Semantics, Meta-States: Mastering the
Higher Levels of the Mind (2008) or the Training Manual, Resilience.  Or
contract with a Meta-Coach!

 

 

 

If you are thinking about Meta-Coach Training and you already have the first
two prerequisites (which is NLP or Coaching Essentials and Meta-States or
Coaching Genius) then here are the next three: 

.         If you are interested in becoming wealthy in your core coaching
skills, the next Module III of Meta-Coaching is in Oct. in Auckland New
Zealand --- Oct. 8-15   Contact: Lena Gray, lena at ignition.co.nz 

 

.         Next one after that, Guangzhou China, Oct. 30-Nov. 3 and Nov. 29-
Dec. 3.  Mandy Chai, mandy at apti.com.hk 

 

.          

.         In Pretoria, South Africa October 28 through November 4, 2011.
Contact: Cheryl Lucas, cheryl at psacoaching.co.za 

 


If you are thinking about Trainers' Training, the next NSTT for licensing as
a Neuro-Semantic NLP Trainer: 

            Date: Oct. 17-27, 2011

Venue: Regal Riverside Hotel, Shatin, Hong Kong

Investment:  There's a special $500 saving right now.

Contact Person: Mandy Chai

Email: mandy at apti.com.hk / alex at apti.com.hk

 

            Part of that includes The Psychology of APG

Date: 17-19 October   and again special savings prior to Oct. 1

 

 

 

L.  Michael Hall, Ph.D.

Neuro-Semantics Executive Director  ----   <http://www.neurosemantics.com/>
www.neurosemantics.com

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