[Neurons] Neurons Digest, Vol 37, Issue 6

[conrad rozario]

Conrad Rozario
conradrozario at yahoo.com 

Hey Michael,

That was awesome! It helped me "big time" in my self assesment and "reality checking" exercises! The part on NLP & NS is the nuke I was always triyng to acquire in order to answer the many "in coming" shorts from NLPers over here! Really great stuff, what a mind! 

To your highest and meta best! 

Conrad Rozario
Alchemy Resources
www.alchemy-resources.com  





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Date: Mon, 24 May 2010 04:56:45 -0600
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From: L. Michael Hall

Meta-Coach Reflections 2010 - #24

May 24, 2010

Vitality #4





NEEDS AND NEEDINESS





We humans are a needy bunch!  We are born needy and we die needy.  As a
species, our life is conditional and the conditions of life, both to just
survive and get by and to thrive and reach the peak of what's possible- puts
within us drives and impulses urging us to move and to act to fulfill our
needs.  And what are these needs?  What are these inherent drives motivating
you and me?



They are the basic and meta-needs and it was Abraham Maslow who mapped out
these levels of needs during the 1930s and 1940s.  Today you know these
levels as those of survival, safety, belonging, self, and "growth"
(self-actualization) for being needs.  Maslow documented this in his classic
Motivation and Personality (1954) which contains his hierarchy of needs that
he had first presented in 1943.  In 2006 I updated Maslow's hierarchy with
the models of Neuro-Semantics.  That's when I introduced the Matrix-Embedded
Pyramid of Needs.  My first book on self-actualization (Unleashed, 2007)
briefly discussed the human Base Needs as did Self-Actualization Psychology
(2008).



Then in 2009, while in South Africa presenting one of the Unleashing
Self-Actualizing Leaders workshop, Tim Goodenough asked a rivoting question
that stopped me in my tracks:

How do we use the Hierarchy of Needs for facilitating the self-actualization
of clients?  How can we use that to determine where a person is in terms of
their need gratification?



That's when I asked Tim to work with me on answering those questions; and he
did.  Tim and I immediately began mapping out a process for using the
Hierarchy of Needs for precisely that purpose.  After several false starts,
we eventually came up with the proto-type in January of 2010 while at the
Leadership Summit.  And after another one or two refinements, we presented
The Self-Actualization Assessment Scale.



With that Scale we can now assess where you live your life-that is, at what
level?  Do you live your life at the base of the hierarchy, mid-way up the
hierarchy, or at the peak?  Depending on how well you have learned to meet
your needs, you can live a low level life in terms of need gratification or
a high level life.  You can live your life in a self-actualizing society or
in the jungle at the survival or safety levels. Do you know where you live
your life and the specific needs that drive you?



You can also live in the Red Zone of any need- in the realm of deficiency
and lack - not getting your needs met, not gratifying the drives that clamor
within you. Or you can live in the Green Zone of growth and development,
adequately gratifying the driving needs so that the next level of
development keeps emerging.



The Self-Actualization Assessment Scale now gives you a way to evaluate the
level that you are living, where you are, what's your next level, the extent
to which you might not be handling your base or meta-needs effectively,
where you might be stuck, and how you can get leverage on yourself to more
adequately meet your needs.  And because you can assess your level and the
quality of your need gratification, you can also now zoom in on the very
places in your life where your needs may be keeping you stuck.



Now when I say stuck, this stuckness may have nothing to do with any trauma
or need for therapy.  You and I can get stuck by simply using an old coping
style that no longer works.  We can get stuck by accidently giving a need
some meaning that does not fully and adequately represent the full truth.
We can get stuck by semantically over-loading a need or a coping mechanism.
And yes, we can also get stuck by giving distorted understandings about the
need and ways to gratify it.  That's what usually involves the discipline
that we call therapy.



Needs - you and I are needy in our very nature.  We are not self-sufficient,
we are not invulnerable, we are not omniscient, omnipotent, and we are not
infallible.  Reading that line, do you feel like throwing a party or
checking in at your local psychiatric clinic?  If the latter, what
expectations have you set about yourself and human life?  What non-sense
have you inherited about human nature?  How long are you going to keep the
insanity of thinking you are God?  If the former, then congratulations for
having fully joined the human race!



Being needy is our heritage, our nature, and our life.  It is also the basis
for growth, learning, development and self-actualization.  After all, if you
were omniscient, omnipotent, and infallible you wouldn't need anything,
couldn't develop, and would not have more potentials to unleash.  Being
needy at your essence - needing to become fully alive, fully human, fully
open, fully developing, fully curious, fully fascinated, fully enjoying life
-drives your vitality and energy for the next-level!



Either way-if you are a trying-to-be-God-frustrated-and-deceived human or if
you are a fully-alive-and-seeking-to-be-self-actualizing human -there's
hope, there's solutions, and there's a self-actualizing future for you.  For
the first, there's a Crucible awaiting ready to help you melt now the
non-sense of perfectionism and your God-trip so you can be human.  For the
latter, there's the adventure of moving to the next-level.







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L.  Michael Hall, Ph.D.

(ISNS) International Society of Neuro-Semantics

The International Meta-Coach System

P.O. Box 8

Clifton, CO.  81520 USA

1 970-523-7877

      <http://www.neurosemantics.com/> www.neurosemantics.com 

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      www.meta-coachfoundation.org 

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Subject: [Neurons] Meta Reflections 2010  #25
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From: L. Michael Hall

Meta  Reflections 2010 - #25

May 31, 2010





"HIGHER BUT SO WHAT?"





That's what he said to me.  I was in Hong Kong and we were doing a
promotional workshop on Meta-Coaching and Mediation.  And we had several
guys from various NLP Schools, several who had read some of my books and
several who were "interested, but unconvinced."  They were unconvinced that
Neuro-Semantics had "anything" to offer that was actually different from
NLP.  At least that's what they said.  So they wanted to know.

"What's new and what different in Neuro-Semantics?  And you can't say that
it is higher because NLP has higher or meta-levels and positions."



"You're right!" I immediately acknowledged.  "Dilts has introduced four
meta-levels in his Neuro-Logical Levels pattern and even Bandler and Grinder
had the 'meta-position' in their original model as well as they acknowledged
that language is a 'meta-representational system,' and so developed a
'Meta-Model of Language in Therapy' as they called it to address that higher
level.  So in all of that, you are right on.  NLP modeled higher levels."



"But while NLP has that, there's one thing that NLP did not have, not until
I introduced the Meta-States Model.  Only then did NLP obtained a model of
the very special and unique kind of mind that man has, well, women also."

"And what is that?"



I threw in the humor bit and paused, all designed to facilitate some
"response potential" as Milton Erickson would have said.  "Okay, so do you
want to know what it is?"  I said that in the tone and tempo that Morpheus
uttered the same line to Neo in The Matrix movie, knowing that they would
like that.  One of them had read my book on The Matrix Model and had spoken
about that when we began.



"What NLP does not have, apart from the Meta-States Model, even to this day,
is a model of the self-reflexiveness of the human mind, and that's the most
unique feature of human consciousness.  NLP began as a modeling of
consciousness, of how our brains operate and of how to effectively run your
own brain, and yet NLP from 1975 to 1994 completely ignored the
self-reflexivity of our minds.  And that's what the Meta-States Model added
to the NLP Communication Model that was so revolutionary." 



I paused for a moment ... there was an awkward silence, so I added.  "Where
in NLP is there anything, one comment, one note, one pattern, one anything
about the self-reflexivity of the human mind except in the Meta-States
Model?  Do you know?  Have you ever seen it?  Has any NLP trainer ever even
mention the fact that there is structure to our meta-cognitive skills and
that our meta-cognitive abilities, processes, and competencies is what
enables us to not only think, but think-about-our-thinking?"

"That's a good point that you're making." one of them said.  And when he
did, another looked at him as if he had just betrayed their alliance!
That's when he said in a challenging way, "So it's all about thinking,
conscious thinking, and that's the biggest problem with Meta-States!"



"Well, I hate to disappoint you, but because a meta-state is first and
foremost and ultimately a state, yes it is a mental state, yet it is also an
emotional state and a somatic state.  And that's why when you meta-state,
you not only bring one thought-to-another-thought, you also bring one
feeling, one emotion, one physiological state to another.  And that's why
meta-stating has nothing to do with the so-called 'dissociation,' and
everything to do with creating the more complex and riches emotional states
possible to human beings."

"But I heard that a Meta-State is a dissociated, non-feeling state and that
that is why you are so academic and non-emotional."



"And who did you hear that one from?"  Well, he couldn't say.  "Do you mean
you cannot or that you don't want to say?"  He didn't want to.  "And why
would you not acknowledge the source of that rumor?  Why hide what someone
has obviously communicated to you and probably to others?  They made it
public, so why protect them against the truth?"



"So tell me, if you love learning, does that make the state of learning more
or less emotional?  What about joy of learning, passion about the joy of
learning?  And what about such meta-states as gloriously fallible,
uninsultability, robustly resilient?  Do those sound like academic and
non-emotional states?"



"And do you think that the 'higher' states in Dilts' list- mission, purpose,
identity, spirit are less emotional, do you think they are dissociated
states?"  Well he didn't.



"So now you know the difference!  And knowing this difference, and realizing
that to step back in your self-reflexive awareness can enrich your knowing
with appreciation or joy or wonder, how do these delightful and playful
states now transforms what you use to know and give you that broader and
more comprehensive competency to explain to anyone who asks you about the
revolutionary difference in Neuro-Semantics, and I'm wondering, just
wondering if you were able to track all of the levels in this statement?"



Ah, now he knows about the "so what" of the higher states!  I hope you do
too.







Schedule of Neuro-Semantic Trainings --- go to  www.neurosemantics.com 

            APG Schedule --- Meta-State Trainings occurring around the
world.

            Dr. Hall's Schedule --  Where Michael is or will be.

            Neuro-Semantic Trainers Schedule ---where other Neuro-Semantic
Trainers and Trainings are occurring. 





L.  Michael Hall, Ph.D.

(ISNS) International Society of Neuro-Semantics

The International Meta-Coach System

P.O. Box 8

Clifton, CO.  81520 USA

1 970-523-7877

      <http://www.neurosemantics.com/> www.neurosemantics.com 

      <http://www.neuro-semantics-trainings.com/>
www.neuro-semantics-trainings.com 

      <http://www.self-actualizing.org/> www.self-actualizing.org

      <http://www.meta-coaching.org/> www.meta-coaching.org

      www.meta-coachfoundation.org 

      <http://www.ns-video.com/> www.ns-video.com 

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