[Neurons] 2010 Meta Reflections #1

[alan at optimum-mind.co.nz]

From: Alan Fayter NZ
alan at optimum-mind.co.nz 

There are some very interesting discussions going on re this
reflection of Michaels; some of which I agree with completely, some less
so; but that's not important.

Michael mentioned he spent
time with some of the "purists", listening, building rapport -
influencing! He was DOING something! He's out there building bridges,
sharing, teaching, being a model for others to follow. Discussions
are great - especially within a certian closed environment such as an
e-group... but everyone agrees! 

The real question is (I
think), "What are each of us DOING to help build collaboration
with/within the NLP field  ...and beyond it? 

I've
spent a lot of money, time, given free talks and presentations,
joined different groups and organisations to 'get inside of them' in order
to influence... and I'm working on something now (not telling yet!!)
that's very expensive but both a financial investment and (I hope) a
major step (for my city and NZ) towards spreading NS, NLP and
collaborating with everyone I can! Wish me luck!!!

What I took
from Michaels post was not "wow, what a great theory" but
"shit, that's a kick up the arse for me to go and DO something
too".

Lets all get out there and DO SOMETHING!

All the best,
Alan

alan at optimum-mind.co.nz 





> 

From: L. Michael Hall 

> 

> Meta-Coach Reflections #1 

> 

> January 4, 2009 

> 

> 

> 

> IS COLLABORATION POSSIBLE 

> 

> IN THE NLP WORLD? 

> 

> 

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> 

> 

> 

> Since I've been writing

some Reflections about NLP, misunderstandings, 

> hype, 

>

the Cult Model, etc. I've received not a few emails essentially asking the


> question of the title, "Is collaboration even possible in

the NLP world?" 

> A 

> few writers have taken me to

task about it saying that I'm dreaming and 

> not 

>

realistic and holding on to a hope that's long gone. A couple people 

> wrote 

> to ask "How would it happen?" and

"What can we do?" to encourage more 

> collaboration in

this field of individualists? 

> 

> 

> 

>

As I've reflected on this feedback, one thing I've become aware of is that


> if we do not collaborate, the field will not cohere

sufficiently to 

> continue 

> as a field. That happened

to the Human Potential Movement-a movement that 

> once had 400

"Growth Centers" around the world and by Carl Rogers' 

>

estimate 

> over five million trained in the model. And while

individuals persist to 

> this day who remember "the

movement," the original flame of the HPM has 

> long 

> been put out and all of those original Growth Centers have long

closed 

> their 

> doors. 

> 

> 

>



> So yes, maybe I am unrealistic and naive and over-optimistic

about 

> collaboration, yet without it NLP as we know it today has

a strong 

> possibility of not making it. And I think that would

be tragic- more than 

> tragic, a tremendous loss to the human

spirit and condition. 

> 

> 

> 

> So what

can we do? If you share with me these convictions about the value 

> of NLP (and Neuro-Semantic NLP), then what can we do? Well, first

and 

> foremost we can operate in a cooperative and collaborative

way to 

> demonstrate what our words about working together mean.

In our attitude 

> and 

> talk we can develop a fully

congruent inclusiveness of language and we can 

> extend ourselves

to invite others for collaborative projects and join 

> those 

> projects that are underway. 

> 

> 

> 

> Along that line, I'd recommend that you take every advantage of

every 

> opportunity to go to Conferences, Congresses, and Events

put on by the NLP 

> community. Demonstrate your good will and

cooperative spirit. That's one 

> thing I attempt to do and have

done every year for many years. 

> 

> 

> 

> Then there is the importance of dialogue- of staying in

communication. It 

> is far, far too easy to step aside and avoid

the "conversation" that's 

> occurring in the NLP field.

And that's especially true for those groups 

> that are so

exclusive and judgment, who do "pure" NLP in contrast to all 

> the 

> rest of us who don't meet their levels of

"purity." I engaged some of 

> that 

> camp

recently at the NLP Conference in London. The first half hour, I 

> just 

> listened. I listened to one guy's judgments of the

field, his judgment 

> against any so-called "NLP"

person who had not studied in their camp and 

> against people

like myself "contaminating" NLP with new stuff not 

>

sanctioned 

> by their guru. I listened respectfully for over 30

minutes. 

> 

> 

> 

> When he had pretty

much got all of that off his chest, I asked if I could 

> ask some

questions. When I got the green light, I began asking for about 

>

the when and what of his criteria for what made up "pure" NLP. I
asked 

> who 

> appointed so-and-so the guru who made

those decisions? I asked if he 

> conferred with the other

co-developers about assuming that right. With 

> each 

>

question, I had to do more listening, which I did. And that led to new 

> questions which I asked. 

> 

> 

> 

> It took 90 minutes, but after that the guys began to relax and we

began 

> laughing together about some of the silly things we were

talking about. 

> And 

> at the end, I told them to pass

on my regards to so-and-so and then wished 

> them well. They both

said they were surprised by me, that I was more 

> likeable than

they expected (! which made me wonder what they had been 

>

told!), and that I had made "some points that they would think
about." 

> 

> 

> 

> Now who knows

what good may come out of that. Maybe none. But I felt 

> that 

> at least there was a human touch, there was some dialogue, there

was some 

> decent conversation. I invited them to read some of

the critiques I had 

> written on the subject (which they didn't

even know existed). 

> 

> 

> 

> A spirit

of cooperation cannot emerge when people are in isolation of each 

> other. If we isolate ourselves, there will be no conversation and

without 

> conversation, no dialogue. So that's at least one

beginning place. 

> 

> 

> 

> Another is to

more authentically operate from abundance. If we act as if 

>

there's scarcity and fight over "my" clients, "my"
people, "my" 

> participants, we deny one of the basic

tenets of NLP and 

> Self-Actualization 

> Psychology. Now

I think I know the key reason some trainers will work 

> hard 

> to actually hide the fact that there are other NLP trainers out

there-they 

> are afraid that they will be compared and will fall

short in terms of 

> skills 

> and competence! 

>



> 

> 

> So, operating out of a sense of their own

inferiority, they boaster 

> themselves as "the best,"

the "purest," the "special," and don't encourage 

> their participants to get training by others. Conversely, if you're

good, 

> if you know what you're doing- the excellence of someone

else takes 

> nothing 

> away from you. Their skill adds

to NLP and what we can do with NLP. 

> After 

> all, don't

we encourage differences, the unique gifts of each person? 

>

Another person's unique skills enriches me and this field. And unless I'm


> suffering from a paranoid inferiority, I will be proud to

recommend others 

> even if they do not agree entirely with me.

Surely it's time to outgrow 

> that childish attitude, isn't it?



> 

> 

> 

> Collaboration is a possibility

and an essential one. Make we all do what 

> we 

> can to

move this field to one of increasing collaboration! 

> 

>



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