[Neurons] 2009 Meta Reflections #46

[L. Michael Hall]

From: L. Michael Hall

Meta Reflections #46

October 19, 2009

Part I

 

META-COACHING

AS LEADERSHIP DEVELOPMENT

 

 

What are the core competency skills required for effective self-actualizing
leaders?  I've been looking for the answer to that question since I began my
studies in Self-Actualization Psychology in 2003.

 

One core competency skill that a truly effective self-actualizing leader
needs is an appreciation of the self-actualizing drive in him or herself and
in all people.  That was Maslow's and McGregor's primary contribution to
this question.  They both argued extensively and worked to enable leaders to
make the paradigm shift from Theory X of human nature to Theory Y and Z.  A
leader who does not think that way, does not perceive, communicate, and
believe according to Theory Y cannot be a self-actualizing leader, let alone
an effective leader.

 

So that's one core competency.  What else?  A leader has to be
self-actualizing him or herself.  This is one area where incongruency and
hypocrisy will completely sabotage the leadership process.  The talk of
self-actualizing has to be backed up by the walk.  You can be the greatest
orator in the world, but without actions to back it up, you will lack the
personal power and authority to be credible.  And that's why congruency,
authenticity, and being real are part and parcel of the Neuro-Semantic
Leadership criteria (on the website) as well.

 

Anything else?  Yes!  As a self-actualizing leader who can and does
effectively lead, he or she facilitates the development of a future vision.
Visioning is especially the one thing that an effective self-actualizing
leader does.  He or she will constantly be awakening people to their own
self-actualizing drive and to self-actualizing with their lovers, families,
companies, communities, and nations.  To not do that is to not be fully in
the process of self-actualizing.  Self-actualization, as I wrote earlier, is
not about you- not about your ego, your individualism to the exclusive of
that of others, it is through you for the greater good.  As a social
creature, human self-actualization is entirely and inescapably social.

 

So is that it or is there anything else?  Yes, there is more, a lot more.
And here is a surprise that I've experienced in the last couple months as
I've had the privilege of presenting Coaching Mastery on three continents-
in Europe, New Zealand, and South Africa.  If you want seven very powerful
core competency skills of self-actualizing leadership- then you can do no
better than to start with the seven core skills of Meta-Coaching!
Surprised?   I was.  "Who'd thunk?"

 

And yet, the seven core skills of Meta-Coaching, the very competencies that
we benchmark are also the very skills of leadership:

Two competencies for creating connection with people for rapport, trust, and
effective collaboration in a win-win spirit and which creates a crucible
space.  Leaders who don't have a heart for people will not be able to lead
people; perhaps they can manage things, systems, or processes.  To lead
people requires heart- care, compassion, even love.  It's been said that
people won't care to hear what you have to say until they know you care
about them.

                        1) Supporting

                        2) Listening

Two competencies for being able to effectively explore the thinking,
valuing, and understandings of people so that the communication is as
accurate and precise as it is indepth and probing to the beyond-conscious
mind.  Leaders often face, and sometimes fall into the mistake of secrecy
and turf protecting.  But a self-actualizing person and a self-actualizing
organization lives from an openness and abundance that knows that we empower
ourselves and others through open sharing of information (rather than
hoarding).  People won't share information who live in an environment of
fear and positioning.

3) Questioning

                        4) Meta-Questioning

Two competencies for entering into an in-the-moment calibration that mirrors
and shapes for the unleashing of potentials.  True enough, leaders live in
the future but not all the time.  They have to come back to the now, to this
moment; they have to be present to people and to the events of this very
moment.  And when they do, and if they have a deep heart-felt connection,
they can speak the truth of this moment.  This is the fierce conversation
that can free us from delusions, lies, and deceptions.

5) Receiving feedback

                        6) Giving feedback

One competency for facilitating and enabling a person to fully experience
what we talk about.  Leaders get results and they do that by focusing on
implementation that executes the plans and strategies that we co-create.  To
get results, leaders have to have an action orientation.  Results only come
from actually translating from mind to body, from mind to muscle.

7) Inducing state

 

If a leader shows a high level of competencies in these skills, he or she
can effectively lead others, or an organization, which unleashes people's
potentials as it taps their potentials for intelligence, creativity, and
innovation.  And conversely, a leader who does not demonstrate high level
competency and elegance in these skills has to rely on the old authoritarian
command-and-control methods of manipulation, making him or her a boss, a
general, a policeman, not a leader.

 

A leader with these competencies will inspire people to not only "buy in" to
the vision of the organization or community, but become so engaged in their
commitment that people will do whatever it takes to fulfill the vision.  And
when you have that level of engagement, any and all problems with motivation
and retention disappear.  And with a self-actualizing company, you will have
a company on the cutting-edge of creativity and innovation- the only way
companies can survive in these days of accelerating change.  And that means
continued growth, return-on-investment, and branding of the quality value
that you add.

 

So what does this mean?  It means that Coaching Mastery is an intense
eight-day bootcamp in leadership development!  That's what it means.  It
means that when you develop these skills for coaching, you are developing
your leadership skills for guiding and facilitating self-actualizing people.


 

It means that the Self-Actualization Psychology that you are learning and
experiencing in Coaching Mastery gives you the most cutting-edge psychology/
philosophy for the 21st century.  And because you are moving beyond the
authoritarian psychology/philosophy of the previous centuries, you will have
the ability to flexibly adapt to the trends and changes that are now
inevitable in the marketplace.  And given that "capital" is changing from
things (buildings, real estate, money, etc.) to people's brains and hearts,
you will be capitalizing on the only true capital that counts-and creating
growth and value through people.  But there's more!  But alas, I'll pick
that up in the next Meta Reflection.

 

 

 

 

 

Unleashing Leadership Workshop

 

The latest book in the Self-Actualization Series and in the Meta-Coach
series is Unleashing Leadership: Self-Actualizing Leaders and Companies
(2009).   As a leadership development workshop, discover how to identify
your leadership potentials and unleash them --- whether for self-leadership
or leadership in an opportunity that awaits you.

 

Dec. 11-13, Imola, Italy

            Sponsored by Bless You --- Nicola Riva and Lucia Giovannini

            Nicola at blessyou.it 

            Special gathering on Dec. 14 for Meta-Coaches and NS trainers 

at the home of Nicola and Lucia.

 

 

 

 

--- Meta-Coach Trainings coming 2009 - 2010

 

                                   

1) South Africa

     Oct. 22, 23-30 - Coaching Mastery.  Pretoria, South Africa

    cheryl at peoplesa.co.za                                

    Cell : 083 267 1412   Tel: 012 362 6542    Fax : 088 012 362 6641

    Skype: meta coach   www.psacoaching.co.za 

                        

2) Australia

       November 19, 20-27 - Coaching Mastery.  Sydney, Australia

      Sponsors: Laureli Blyth and Heidi Heron                  

      Heidi at nlpworldwide.com              Laureli at nlpworldwide.com 

 

 

3) China --- 2010

      Meta-Coaching in two parts --   January 17-22 and May 9-14  (6 days
each time): 

Includes also Module II (Coaching Genius).  

            Guangzhou, China:  Sponsor: Team Huang --- supported by
Neuro-Semantic Trainers: 

Mandy Chai and Wilkie Choi   For Chinese---   yeshow at 163.net .  For English
speakers: 

Mandy Chai: chaimansun at yahoo.com.hk 

 

 

4) Mexico --- 2010

     In two parts --- March 4-7 (March 3 for Team Leaders) and April 15-18
(April 14 for Team Leaders). 

     Sponsor: Salom Change Dynamics-  www.salomchd.com  (55) 30930687 ---
emilia at salomchd.com

 

 




 

 

 

 

L.  Michael Hall, Ph.D.

International Society of Neuro-Semantics

Meta-Coach Training System

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