[Neurons] Meta Reflection #46

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L. Michael Hall

Meta Reflections #46

October 15, 2007 


MATRIX OR META-STATE



A couple days ago at the Meta-Coach training in Mexico City one of the new coaches in training to become a Meta-Coach asked a question that I've never been asked before.

"What's the difference between the Matrix questions in the Matrix Model and the Meta-Questions in the Meta-States Model? How can I tell the difference?" 

We had been using both sets of questions, the first dozen meta-questions for the skill of meta-questioning and the matrix questions to explore a person's matrix to deeply and thoroughly understand a person. How would you answer that question? Instead of immediately answering, since I was more in a coach mode rather than a trainer mode, I used questions to see if I could bring out the person's own intelligence and ability to make that distinction.

"What is the subject of the meta-questions? What process are you seeking to discover with those questions?"

She said that she didn't exactly understand the question. So I rephrase my question to her.

"What are you attempting to do, to discover, and to explore when you ask meta-questions?"

"Well, I am trying to find the person's meta-state, the person's state about their first state."

"Great. And what is a meta-state? What else can we call a meta-state? What process within human functioning or psychology does a meta-state refer to?"

She said, "A higher state . . . uh . . . a frame, yes, a frame of mind."

"Yes that exactly right. A meta-state is a higher frame of mind, a frame of mind about the previous state. And what else might we call this?"

She struggled for a bit, so I prodded her.

"When you have this frame of mind it is a frame of .... what?"

"Oh, of meaning, a frame of meaning." she said excitedly as if either remembering a jewel of understanding or finally connecting things that she already knew.

"So if a meta-state is a frame of meaning, if meaning is the process that we are working with when we meta-state and do so layer upon layer, then what do we create . . . what results when we have multiple layers of states or frames about something?"

"The Matrix!" she said nearly shouting.  I confirmed that and asked if she now had the distinction that she wanted. She reflected about that and was quiet for a few moments, and then she asked another question.

"So what about the content questions in the Matrix? Are the questions about the matrices of self, power, others, time, and world -those content matrices, are they also meta-questions? They seem different? They are not like the meta-questions like belief, value, understand, know, remember, imagine, anticipate, expect, permit, etc."

I was impressed with her quick listing of some initial meta-questions.

"Great job of listing some basic meta-questions! And an excellent question. And of course, unlike the process matrices of meaning, intention, and state, these refer to the developmental stages and the content meanings that we create as we grow and develop."

She looked puzzled, apparently had not worked that through in her mind. So I asked another question about the content matrices to facilitate the next discovery.

"What develops within the content matrices? What is the subject of the content matrices? What ties all of the content matrices together?"

She didn't know and couldn't identify the factor or mechanism that's coheres throughout the content matrices. So I asked her to reflect upon a possibility.

"What if the content of the content matrices is your self? What if your identity, your sense of self, your construct of an invented identity in numerous facets is what develops and what if the different content matrices simply sorts these out to give different perspectives about how you have mapped out you and taken together they describe your full sense of self?"

She said she had not thought of that and wanted me to explain further. 

"Okay. In the Self matrix we have our first maps, meanings, beliefs, values, understandings, decisions, etc. (the meta-questions) about our self as a human being. This relates to our worth, our value, our dignity, our being-ness.   That's our self-esteem.  In the Power matrix we have our mental mapping about our powers, resources, and capabilities. This refers to our self-confidence, our confidence in what we can do and achieve. In the Others matrix we have our meanings about our self in relation to others. Here are our meanings, beliefs, representations, etc. about people, human nature, social skills, getting along, fighting, making up, communicating, etc.  This is our relational self, who we are in-relationship with others.

"In our Time matrix we have our meaning-mapping about the concept of time, of our ability to stand back from events and represent events that have happened (the "past"), those that will happen (the "future"), and those that are now happening. This creates our temporal self- our self in time or out of time. Finally, there is the category of the World matrix which defines our understandings of various worlds of meaning and all of the beliefs and maps we have that enable us to navigate those worlds, or not."

That was the insight and distinction she was looking for. I then pointed out that we have an article on the website, The Matrix of the Matrix that explains some of this, and with that, she gave me a meta high-five that we do in Meta-Coaching. Here's a Meta High Five to you!

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